Your Own Way

By Olivia Crescenzi, Regular ContributorSeptember 4, 2015

Mantras have recently become a vital part of my day. Now, for those of you reading who missed the part about me being a spiritual monk, you’re not wrong. I’m definitely not a yogi in any way (as much as I wish I was sometimes). But you see, mantras aren’t only for the higher powers of spirituality. They’re actually accessible to all of us, and in my opinion, pretty important free gifts in life that can truly change the path of our minds. To the root, mantra actually means mind instrument. It’s literally a tool we can use to alter the course of our thoughts and, ultimately, use to our advantage.

I feel like I’ve been using mantras, in my own way, for years. Whenever I had a big test or competition coming up, I’d repeat motivational phrases to myself, and, if I did it long enough, I would start to actually feel more confident. If I was feeling anxious or uncomfortable in certain situations, I’d take a couple of minutes to tell myself it was nothing, and, just like that, my worries would subside.

More recently though, I’ve really started to consciously use mantras throughout the day. The big one for me has been: “You will get there in your own way.”

I’ve had the terrible habit of comparing my life journey to that of others around me ever since I can remember. If someone I knew seemed more successful than me in any way, I’d instantly reprimand myself for it, wondering why the hell I couldn’t do that too. I feel like everyone does it. Am I wrong?


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Maybe it’s really just me, but I think it’s actually pretty natural to compare ourselves to those around us. Sometimes it motivates us, actually pushes us to do better. However, most of the time making useless comparisons like that only bring us down, and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to notice the impact. Has anyone ever told you about a big accomplishment they achieved and you, while congratulating them overly loudly, secretly just wished they hadn’t told you? As if them doing something great makes you a horrible, undeserving person. Don’t worry, I promise you’re not alone. I can also promise that your reaction has probably made you feel even worse about yourself. Am I right?

So what am I getting at here? How do mantras fit into this? You see, for a few months, every time I’ve started to get down on myself for not achieving the same things as others, I’ve dug deep into my mind and started repeating, “You will get there in your own way”. And I want you to try it, too; it works. You are worth the success. You may not be getting there the same way as your friend, coworker, or classmate, but you are on your own journey to wherever it is this life is leading you, and in the end, if you throw yourself into everything you do with your whole heart, I promise you will get there too. Maybe your ‘there’ will be even better. Actually, it definitely will be, because you’ll have gotten there in your own time, your own way. And that, to me, sounds better than any achievement I’ve ever heard of.

So go. Reach. Do everything you possibly can to get where you want to be. Become the person you’ve always dreamed of being.

Promise yourself, and me, that you will not succumb to the pressure of others’ achievements. Everyone has their own timeline, and yours is solely yours. Embrace it, the good, the bad, the ugly, the unfair. In the end, the biggest achievement will be knowing that you got there in your own way.

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About Olivia

OLIVIA_CRESCENZI_writer_bio.jpgI am a twenty-year-old Microbiology & Immunology student at McGill University in Montreal, Canada. On the (more often than not) moments that I’m caught procrastinating my studying, I’m just your regular teenager (yes, still) that values friends, family and dramatic reality TV more than anyone. I would say that I am a collaborator, an empathizer, and pretty middle ground between an idealist and a realist. Most importantly and above all, however, I’m obsessed with our culture as young girls and women, and I want nothing more than to delve deep into this important discussion with you. 


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  • commented 2015-09-08 08:01:20 -0700
    AH so glad you like it, Amanda! Do you have any mantras to share with us? I’d love to hear from you!
  • commented 2015-09-06 08:49:31 -0700
    LOVE this article!! Thank you!
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