By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor
“It’s the oldest story in the world. One day you’re seventeen and planning for someday and then quietly and without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And that someday is yesterday. And this is your life.” –One Tree Hill
We spend a lot of time waiting and wishing for something to happen in our lives. We can’t wait for the weekend and it’s only Monday. Or we wish that we could live our dream and move away from the day job that we don’t want to be in. We miss opportunities to tell people we love them when we should, or we forget to seize the moments spent with friends when we have them. Appreciating where we are in our lives and being all there, even if it’s not the best situation, is the best gift we can give to ourselves. Giving everything we have to the moment we are in is essential to fully living.
I’ve been noticing how I am always in a rush to get to the next thing on my schedule. I’m not very good at just being present and enjoying where I am in my day. I can’t wait to finish my run so I can go hang out with my friends. And then once I’m with my friends, although I have fun, I am already thinking about what I have to do when I get home or the next day at work. I feel like I rarely allow myself to breathe and enjoy. There are so many things flooding my mind at all hours of the day that even when I have second to relax I’m worried about my relationship or my job. Learning to just be still is something that I haven’t mastered yet.
I remember being seventeen and having the world at my fingertips. I had college to look forward to, I had a plan for my future, but more importantly I wasn’t rushing to get anywhere. I was excited about what was to come but I was content with where I was. But somewhere along the way I forgot to enjoy the journey. I lost that part of myself that was a dreamer and who enjoyed every second not worrying about what was coming next. My default was to be fearless and to take risks, but now I seem to be fearful first, and I’m skeptical of what’s around the corner instead of excited to enjoy the ride. I rarely think about the moment I’m in. I am already into tomorrow and planning for next weekend.
I don’t want to wake up one day and feel like I missed parts of my own life. Our world runs a million miles a second and slowing down rarely seems to be an option. We shouldn’t risk getting to the end of our lives and not remembering what we did to enjoy it. We shouldn’t wait for tomorrow to start appreciating the moments we are living, we need to stop wishing for someday. Today is what matters. This second that you are living matters. Cherish it, because these moments will be gone far too quickly.
Challenging yourself to slow down and take in every moment is one of the best gifts you have to give.
- Talk about three ways you can build in more "brake-time" in the course of your day?
- What do you notice when you are able to be present and really live in the moment? How does it make you feel?
- Who are some people you admire that seem to be really engaged and present? What can you learn from them?
She moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.
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