By: Courtney Giardina, Regular Contributor
This past weekend I went on a cruise to Bahamas. It was much needed rest and relaxation time and the weather couldn’t have been more perfect. They say when you’re on vacation to leave all of your troubles behind. Not to worry about it until you return, which of course I did, but I decided to take it one step further. If I leave all of my troubles back in the real world that means they are going to be there when I return. Why would I want that right?
So I decided one night while watching the waves rolling in the ocean, that I was also going to leave a couple of things behind on my vacation as well. I was going to throw them overboard and let the waves carry them away. Things I didn’t need with me once the ship reached port.
Expectations: Most of my friends are married, having children or at least with the person they plan on doing all of that with. Yet here I am not close to any of those things. Sometimes I feel like I’m behind. I’m thirty and single, but honestly quite enjoying my life the way it is. So you know what, for the time being I am going to enjoy the life I have been given. I’m going to enjoy having the remote control and bed all to myself; I’m going to enjoy not doubling my grocery bill. Because someday all of that will come, I will get there, but worrying about the timeline or when it is that I will get there, there is no need for that. We all get there at our own pace, when we are ready.
The Past: There I was, on a cruise with some pretty awesome people, having a great time. So why on earth was I missing someone who didn’t even know I was gone? We all have them I know, that one person we can’t seem to let go of. That we wish would miraculously wake up one day (or way sooner) and realize what it is they’re missing. For me though, the truth is that is never going to happen. While they have well moved on with their life, I was still holding on to this glimmer of hope. It was such a waste of my time and energy. And do I really want someone to come back to me who couldn’t see what I had to offer in the first place? No, none of us need that. The past is the past for a reason.
So there you have it! Just as Ferris Bueller would say: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Dwelling on things we can’t change, it’s just not worth it.
As the saying goes, "hold on tightly, let go lightly."
- What are some things you need to "throw overboard?" (No need to wait until you're on the actual open seas!)
- What would you tell a friend who is having trouble of letting go? How could you help her or him?
- How do you beat back worry and anxiety?
Courtney was born and raised in a suburb outside of Rochester, NY. She now calls Charlotte, NC home. Each day she lives by the motto that we create the life we imagine for ourselves. Her debut novel Tear Stained Beaches was released in 2013, her second novel is currently in editing and she has begun work on novel #3. Having a passion for cheerleading most of her life, it’s no surprise her spare time is spent currently as the head coach for a local middle school team and also as part of the Charlotte Hounds Major League Lacrosse dance team. She tweets under @sweetangeleyz and shares her latest adventures at The Girl Behind the Covers.
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