By: Kaycee Wolf, Guest BloggerJune 27, 2015
I’ve had a lot of time over the years to think about what kind of woman I want to be. I remember daydreaming when I was in high school about changing the world someday. That was sixteen years ago. Have I changed the world? Maybe a little. I’d like to think that I have made some type of positive contribution, but it hasn’t been on a grand scale. I am not a heroine for women everywhere. And you know what? That’s okay.
As long as I can change one life for the better, I am happy with my life. That is ultimately why I started blogging. I have struggled with being overweight my entire life. I know what it is like to be the insecure, shy girl who is too scared to talk to a boy. I also know what it is like to be the loud, flashy girl who uses sex as a weapon. Both were deflecting mechanisms because I was so frightened of someone finding out who I really was and rejecting me because of it.
So who am I? I have a big heart. I have a loud voice. I’m impatient, protective, smothering (at times), funny (again at times), and loyal. I can sing pretty well, and I’ve finally learned to love the skin that I am in.
That’s the most important thing that I have come to realize: I am me.
I have learned to believe in myself and have confidence in my abilities. I can live with my daily choices because I usually make the choices that are best for me. There is so much contrasting information in our faces daily. Every week there is a new obsession over different health supplements, make-up, life advice, and fashion mandates. How are we supposed to keep up with it all? I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that learning who you are and staying true to who you are to the best of your ability are true talismans on this path of life. It does not matter what everyone else is doing. It really doesn’t. Do your own research, and do what is best for you. It took me a long time to realize the key to a happy life.
It’s not always easy though.
Life is amazing, but life is hard. There are times when you will feel all alone in this great big world, but you’re not. There are times when you wish you were all alone in this great big world, but you’re not. You are not that girl or this girl. You are you. Say it. Feel it. Own it. Once you realize this, there is no need to tear others down to build yourself up. Instead, discover who you are and then use your awesomeness to build others up.
How do you stay true to yourself in a society full of pressure? In what ways are you uniquely you?? Tell us below!
Kaycee is a novice blogger living in Central Arkansas. She is a lover of music, writing, and a comfortable pair of yoga pants. Although an attorney by day, her recent quest for health and positive self-image started her blog adventures at http://www.voluptuousmisadventures.com.
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