By: Dana Zillgitt, Regular Contributor
Growing up, I always prided myself on being part of the boys’ club, for being one of the guys. I thought the diamond between my thighs was something to be ashamed of, to hide from, that I was lesser because of it. But I couldn’t have been further from the truth.
Being one of the guys was easy. I could talk sports, drink a few beers, and make fart jokes without anyone giving me a second glance. I can roll with the punches and I can hang out with the guys without a second thought. But meeting new people, especially potential love interests and girl friends, is difficult. The inevitable questions that arise are often: “So…ever hooked up with any of them?” or “You’re probably a heart breaking tease, aren’t you?” and “Bet I can’t guess your number.” That last one being my favorite one yet.
And to answer your questions, my friendships with the guys mean more than romance right now. They would go to bat for me as I would for them. And it’s intimidating, I’m sure, to have a woman be surrounded by close male friends that are good looking and strong. I take less flack because of it, and I’m more reluctant to let just anybody into my heart. I deserve all things wonderful because of the people by my side.
So I’m one of the guys. I make poop jokes regularly, have a wit sharper than an iron tongue, and I can throw a perfect spiral even after a long day. Plus, take me on a brewery tour and you’re one step closer to winning my heart. They’ve also strangely taught me a lot about what it means to be a woman in today’s world. They’ve taught me there is a certain strength in knowing your worth, in going after your dreams, and refusing to settle for anything less than the best. My boys taught me that the strongest women often have navigated the toughest waters, that they have loved and lost, and that there are few men without a goddess who helped shape them. Women can and will change the world, a lesson I’m not sure I would have learned so readily if I hadn’t grown up presiding over the boy’s club.
What am I trying to say here? Being a guy’s girl isn’t so bad. I’ve amped up my game by rolling with the boys and very few men intimidate me, whether they are janitors or CEOs of Fortune 500 companies. Being a guy’s girl increases my game both on and off the field. And it means consistently learning from mistakes, successes, and everything in between. Accepting all parts of your personality-the gritty and the beautiful-is crucial to not only being a guy’s girl but to being THAT GIRL.
There are lot's of things we learn from friendships of all kinds.
- Take a few minutes to think about your group of friends and ask yourself what you learn from them, how do they support you, what are the dynamics of these relationships? It's always a good idea to be in tune how your friendships and relationships impact your life!
Dana has her BA in International Affairs & Spanish as well as a mild obsession with rescue animals and all things caffeinated. She’s mastered the art of the selfie, fort building, and even the sass battle. Plus, she can quote 95% of Anchorman and Zoolander.
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