Action’s biggest enemy is fear. That feeling you’re paralyzed with when you want to do something bigger than yourself. Well, it’s not really something bigger, it’s only something you think is bigger. That’s a huge difference. So, the real question is what are you afraid of?
Trying to do something youâve always wanted to do is frightening because itâs usually something that matters a lot to you. Youâve been dreaming of it, thinking of it all the time, and imagining how much better your life would be as a result. Taking action is taking a risk that you might be disappointed. A movie is always worse than the book, right? Donât forget, though, that sometimes life and reality are even better than what youâve imagined. Really, I swear.
Then thereâs the fear of failure. I can relate. Even if youâve never wanted to be number one and youâre not a competitive person, risking doing what youâve dreamed of is risking failing at it. You think youâre born for something and youâre afraid that taking that chance may prove you wrong. It would shake your values and force you to call things about yourself into question. But let me tell you something; failing can be a blessing. It helps you grow. You canât control everything and you never will, so thereâs really no need to wait.
Tal Ben-Shahar, the famous former Harvard professor of positive psychology, explains it very well in his awesome book, Happier. He says taking risks and meeting challenges gives you strength and confidence, which makes you progress even if you fail. By avoiding the risk, you send a bad message to your self-esteem (“I’m not capable of doing this”) instead of daring to believe that you’re strong enough to try and overcome failure.
You don’t want to go outside your comfort zone because you’re frightened you won’t be able to handle the bad things that could happen. Well, you’re wrong. It’s staying afraid that’s really going to weaken your self-confidence.
So, think outside the box! Believe in yourself because you’re stronger than you think. You’re capable of doing what you want. Need an example? Just look at me; I dared to write to I AM THAT GIRL after hesitating for so long and I feel so proud now! To dare is not easy, but that’s why it’s rewarding.
It’s just like Elbert Hubbard said, “The greatest mistake a man can ever make is to be afraid of making one."
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