By: Brittney Schering, Regular Contributor
Sometimes I get lost, so far lost inside my head. It takes some serious skills and agility to get me out of these trances. It is even harder to knock down my walls, with stubbornness so severely built up that for a while, I thought it was impossible.
Then I met my boyfriend, with whom every wall came crashing down. It is almost as if he hardly had to try; it just happened. And when I start to get lost inside my head, he sees it before I know it, and he helps me to snap out of it before I get lost again. He encourages me to talk instead of removing myself from the present moment due to distraction, which is almost-always some stress-induced series of thoughts.
The truth here, though, is that it is not always perfect. We fight, and we fight hard. We argue, and we yell. Loud. Louder. But one thing never ever fails: We always see it through. We come up from the muck. We meet halfway and manifest clarity because despite falling into the thick of it sometimes, together, we will not give up.
If you know of a couple who is happily together without any problems, please show me them. No, Ken and Barbie do not count. But, I am exhausted from having to hide the truth that things are not always perfect. Sure, he gets on my nerves sometimes, and I get on his, too. We all know I am not the easiest person to deal with at times— nobody is perfect. Everyone has his/her own issues. The thing that counts, though, is seeing past those issues. It is going beyond what is known as the “honeymoon phase” of dating and into the real life scenarios, the sticky stuff, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
It is all about the willingness and wanting to compromise, negotiate, and thoroughly communicate at the end of the day. This is why I am happier than I have ever been, despite wicked arguments and emotional roller coasters that come with a real, wholeheartedly passionate relationship. Yeah, you will have that in real Love.
I have had relationships in the past where everything seems fairytale hunky-dory, but you know what? Passion was nonexistent. A reason to try and to endure the worst to come was not present. This is why when these particular, temporary dating stints would end after a few weeks or months or whatever the time span, it was not hard to let go, because there was not much to hold onto from the get-go.
I have never had this much to hold onto, and despite any and all opinions or disagreements, I do not want to let go, because my heart is fully in this, and I will not let myself give up on a love that brings me back to life day in and day out. That is what this whole thing is all about. When you fall into the right combination of passion mixed with madness, I firmly believe the result is pure and everlasting love.
This is my answer to “What is Love?” Yours may be different, and there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has a right to their opinion, just as everyone has a right to live life as they wish, with respect to their own definitions of Love and happiness.
About Brittney: Brittney Schering is a writer and full-time nanny in LA. She contributes to multiple publications and maintains two blogs; one personal, the other on life as a nanny. Schering is passionate about compassion, positivity, creativity, and children's best interests. She holds a Bachelor's degree in professional writing.
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