By Susannah Hutcheson, IATG ContributorMay 11,2016
I grew up in a completely "normal" nuclear family. Dad, mom, little sister, cat, dogs…the whole package. I always found pride in the fact that my parents weren’t divorced, like a pretty good chunk of my friend’s parents were. We ate family dinners, went on vacations, and walked around the neighborhood every evening.
And then, all of a sudden, we didn’t.
When the divorce papers were filed and finalized, my life was suddenly different in a myriad of ways. I started spending Thanksgiving with my dad, Christmas with my mom, and a lot more time with my little sister. Family dinners kind of stopped. People picked sides. I was three hours away, trying to navigate through my freshman year of college, while my family fell apart 190 miles up the road from me.
I furiously tried to pick up the pieces that had shattered to the ground, tried frantically to fix everything… several of those pieces being my own. I learned pretty quickly that I wasn’t the one who could glue those pieces back together.
Time heals all, even when it glues back pieces in a different way then you might expect.
I’ve learned not to let the idea of love jade me, even though it did for a while. I was terrified with the prospect of marrying someone and then getting divorced but I see now that there's no point in worrying about that.
I’ve learned to hold my family closer, especially my little sister.
I’ve learned that beautiful things come from talking to one another, instead of holding anger underneath the surface.
I’ve learned that time heals.
I’ve learned that divorce tears people apart, but that they can coexist eventually.
I’ve learned that sometimes people are happier without each other.
I’ve learned to trust people again.
I’ve learned that life is hard, but it is also quite beautiful.
I’ve learned that I am okay.
Sometimes hard times teach valuable lessons. What have you learned from divorce?
Susannah is a Journalism major, passionate about social justice and Jesus Christ. She loves cold weather, triple-shot lattes, and macaroni and cheese. You can read her ramblings at ileftamessinthekitchen.wordpress.com, or look at pictures of her coffee on Instagram: @susannah.beth