What Happens When You Let Fear Lead

By: Dana Zillgitt, Regular Contributor

Have you ever had one of those “Aha” moments where you realized what you were doing wrong? And what you needed to do to get back on the right track? Recently that happened to me and it was weirdly really cathartic as well as totally mind boggling that I hadn’t realized it before. And sometimes you need a butt kicking to get the change started.

It’s easier to wallow, to hole yourself up and forget what actually makes this crazy ride worth it; it’s easier to push everybody away and be alone. But that’s no fun at all and it isn’t worth getting up every morning for. And I’m brilliant at pushing people away with my sky-high walls covered in moss and ivy but it doesn’t help me anyway. I’m selfless at times and a little nutty but it’s about time I start taking my own advice. And start taking better care of myself for more than just a week or two at most. But I’m so over feeling sorry for myself, over not even trying to do something about it.


I’ve heard it takes 30 days or so to actually solidify a habit. If I can stick with something for just 30 days, it’ll stick. No more throwing pity parties for company of one. I’m a people person and I need to remember that. I need to remember why I’m here and that it gets better when I say it gets better, when I start making it better. It may have taken a horrible mistake on my part to start making this happen, but it may have been what I needed for me to actually realize that I’m the change that needs to be implemented in my own life.

So here’s to giving into fear and actually using it as motivation for once.

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About Dana

dana_z.jpgDana has her BA in International Affairs & Spanish as well as a mild obsession with rescue animals and all things caffeinated. She’s mastered the art of the selfie, fort building, and even the sass battle. Plus, she can quote 95% of Anchorman and Zoolander.

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  • commented 2015-01-22 11:13:35 -0800
    Wow. This hit the spot. I’m going through a pretty tough time & I did it to myself. I just don’t know how to get through this.

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