By: Lauren Freier, Regular Contributor
In life we are faced with a series of crossroads and while we may not always like our options, it is important to recognize that we indeed have a choice. Don’t enjoy your job? Don’t like where you live? Aren’t happy in your relationships? Make a change! You probably won’t alter your world overnight, but you can take steps in a new direction and at the very least redecorate what you've got. Changing everything all at once is no doubt terrifying and overwhelming, so start small: Make a list, a phone call, an intention, but just make something. And don’t psych yourself out with the can’ts before you even allow yourself to begin.
As a cautious risk taker myself, I often find my own desire for change at odds with my well-detailed calendar. I am a hopeful realist. I know what makes sense and have exhausted all the shoulds, but I balance the practical with wild and limitless dreams. While many people are hard-wired one way or another, others (like me) frequently find their wires crossed. We understand the comfort that comes with routine and the safety in knowing what to expect, but we also feel the freedom in spontaneity and the happiness that grows from expecting the unexpected. In this space between inhibition and impulsivity is a need for and fear of change, causing an ongoing internal struggle between the two.
But life is not going to change itself. You need to take the initiative and create opportunities if you so choose. It is perseverance—whether in the face of triumph, defeat, or confusion—that fuels continued adventure. It is possibility that makes the unknown worth the risk. In believing that you can be, will be, and already are strong enough to handle whatever you are confronted with, you are ready as ever. So ask yourself what it is you want out of this day, this week, this year, this LIFE. Now go after it!
Lauren is a passionate writer, Beatles fanatic, celebrity gossip junkie, therapist, and mental health advocate. Her personal and professional experiences in both LA and Chicago have inspired her dedication to emotional wellness, resiliency, and self-acceptance. She holds an MA in Clinical Psychology and is a therapist at InnerVoice Psychotherapy and Consultation, a Chicago-based private practice, as well as a social-emotional health educator at a non-profit organization.
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