Wanted: Big, Bold Life

By: Nicole Shermet, IATG ContributorAugust 3, 2016


What am I afraid of? Many things.

I am terrified of heights, and, therefore, I don’t enjoy flying. I could provide a long list of many other insignificant things that scare me; however, above all, I am afraid of having a ‘small life.’

I have always been interested in exploring, going to see friends, and finding new places. It was easy to explore, try new things, and find excitement when I was growing up, but as I got older, I found myself getting restless, wanting to do more.  In my third year of university I was lucky enough to study abroad in Europe. I had an amazing time and took every opportunity that came up. It changed my perspective 100%.

When I went home, I found it quite difficult to settle into my ‘normal’ life.  After I completed my schooling I began working – or what I can ‘living like an adult.’ All around me were people getting married, having babies, buying houses and cars in communities close to where we grew up. I didn’t find myself becoming envious; I found myself become anxious. I was worried that all of the sudden my life would be settled, and I would be stuck in an average town forever. Now to be clear, I don’t think there is anything wrong with this. I just knew it wasn’t for me. I wasn’t interested in settling down or making a huge financial commitment. I wanted something broader and something more diverse. I needed to make a change.

This inevitably drove me to move to England and build a life for myself here. I was well aware that the move alone would not give me a ‘big life’. I knew I would have to work for it. I could easily fall into my old habits and live comfortably, or worse become more isolated as I don’t have the same tribe of friends and family here.

I was inspired by the idea of the ‘year of yes’. If I was going to be brave and make the move 3000 miles away, I was going to make the most of it. I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone and say yes to as many opportunities that came up. Obviously I have limits and say no if I genuinely don’t want to do something. (So if someone says ‘let’s go skydiving,’ I am going to say “no!”) Since moving, I’ve done many things I would normally have said no to.

Have I loved everything I’ve done? No, definitely not, but I have no regrets.

Overall, it has been a fun ride, and I have learned a lot about myself along the way. I am proud that I have stayed committed and continuously do new or different things. I will continue to live this ‘year of yes’ and see where it takes me. I was fortunate enough to move over here,, so I am going to make the most of it! I’ll keep you updated on how it all goes!


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Let’s start small and have a day of YES! Try stepping out of your comfort zone today and trying something new.

About Nicole:

Nicole_Shermet.jpgNicole is a 2012 communications and business graduate, who then specialized in Public Relations. She grew up in the Great White North (aka Canada) and recently moved to London. A top priority is trying to navigate adulthood. Her interests include travelling, exercising, and finding edible gluten & dairy free treats (darn allergies).


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  • commented 2016-08-26 09:55:36 -0700
    The thing I love the most with I am that girl is that it shows us that we’re not alone. I’ve always wanted that kind of life myself and I tried leaving but it didn’t work because I just wasn’t okay so I came back near where I grew up with my parents. Does this mean I intend to stay here forever ? No, but I have learned to take the time to be ready and if you read this Ushna Naeem I was in you’re place just a few months ago but you don’t need to do things in a hurry, take the time to figure out how you can make it happen, act on it and when you’re ready, go get it.
  • commented 2016-08-05 00:37:54 -0700
    Omg!! I feel exactly the same way!! But i’m a highschool student and I dont know where to start.for starters, I dont know how to drive “YAYY MEE!”. I’m too scared to travel alone and the people around me dont feel like getting out of their comfort zones. Everyday, every single day, I feel the stress of it all getting to me.Of not being able to do anything, of seeing my life pass me by. And the worst thing is that im too scared to ask the people around me for things like this because of the fear of rejection, humiliation. Even my own parents, believe it or not. Wait, that wasnt the worst part. The worst part is that the people around me seem to believe that if I dont get good grades and get a good job afterwards, I wouldnt be able to do anything. And right now im not doing really good at school. I know it, and I hate it. So with each passing day, I feel a little more hopeless, knowing that I won’t be able to live the life that I’ve always wanted. Because my parents tend to believe and I quote “if you dont earn good money, you wont be able to travel anywhere”. I’m scared. Im terrified of the prospect of living a ‘small life’ .

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