By Rachel Benbrook Mason, Regular ContributorOctober 12, 2015
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As I’ve grown, I’ve begun to learn that I have to trust myself. It sounds so simple, yet I constantly struggle with it and believe that many others do as well. Whenever life comes at me, it’s always been my first instinct to seek the counsel of friends, loved ones, clergy, etc. As human beings, I believe we’re almost entirely relational creatures, so this is our first instinct when we find ourselves in times of worry or distress. In many ways this is healthy. It is right and good that we communicate with others about what may be going on in our lives. It would certainly be wrong to bottle things up and keep them in. Many people, from business professionals to college students, would not consider making a major life or career decision without first seeking the counsel of other wise individuals.
Such relational communications are beneficial; however I truly believe, with resounding clarity, that at the end of the day, only you have an inner compass that can guide you as you go.
Although many may peer into your life, no one can fully understand you until they stand in your shoes.
It has been a long journey for me to come to this conclusion, but I truly believe that true strength and wisdom and maturity come from the realization that in the end, only you know what’s best for you. I often tried to please others or to listen to the guidance of others as my my source of which direction I should take.
Only you can decide major events in your life, and only you can ever have access to your memories, experiences, and emotions that guide your everyday reactions and thought processes.
You must rely upon your internal compass rather than the world around you. It’s the most difficult and liberating conclusion I’ve ever come to in my life. I know as I go on this journey of life, my loved ones shape me and guide me, and I would not be who I am without them. We each need other people, and every person we come across leaves an impact upon us either for the positive or for the negative, but regardless of what we come across in life, you must rely upon yourself.
You must trust your gut instincts and hold steadfast to who you are.
Once you have that sense of inner clarity, I believe all decisions and all aspects of life become easier and more enjoyable. So the next time you’re faced with a challenge, a difficult situation, a struggle, or a major decision.. Seek the counsel of those around you, but in the end…
Trust yourself. You can do it.
Who do you go to when you need guidance? Do you ever turn to yourself? Do you trust your inner compass? Tell us below!
Rachel is a graduate of Oklahoma State University and the University of Leeds where she studied Political Communications. She is a passionate advocate of strong friendships, caffeine, social justice, current events, travels and adventures, as well as all things peanut butter. She enjoys watching Parks and Recreation, as well as teaching English to new language learners.
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