I just sent the following e-mail to one of my dear friends and realized that whether you are nursing a broken heart or if you’ve felt her pain at one point or even if you have yet to eat your slice of humble pie, it’s a good reminder for all of us.
Wow, lady. Sorry to hear about homeboy, but good to know NOW!! I've been in the exact same situation. I totally dove in headfirst and the moment I realized I was swimming in a pool alone, while he comfortably sat on the sun chair staring down at me, unable or unwilling to join me, I politely peaced out. That doesn't mean it was easy, but somewhere in my head, my brain had a tough conversation with my heart and over time, reminded her that she was too precious to be with someone who couldn't be brave enough to dive in, too. I'm sorry, though. I say that because I know intimately how shell shocked a heart can be after she goes big and, well, goes home alone. I am the queen of wearing my heart on my sleeve and, to be honest, I think it can be interpreted as puppy love, naivetÃ©, and yet I vehemently disagree. I think it's courageous as $* to believe in love, to sign up for magic, and to bravely dive in as many times as it takes. I've certainly had more than my fair share of heartbreaks, but I also believe that love is worthy of the hunt and the battle wounds, while the scars we adorn are but etchings of optimism, tangible sketches of our faith, like a treasure map to a place, a person we have yet to know or meet.
I'm obviously a hopeless optimist, my dear, this you know more intimately than most, but I also believe that we accept the love we think we deserve (the latest plagiarized statement I've stolen from an indie movie you MUST see, The Perks of Being a Wallflower) and you're willingness to still be out on the battlefield proves that you will inevitably find the person worthy of you and, trust me, he's going to be quite the anomaly because to be equally yoked with YOU, he'll have to be a real-life Hercules, an emotional genius, a literary prodigy, and a creative wizard with a smile that's melt-worthy. You're such a special girl and I know that in these kind of moments (at least for me) it was easy to question my worth or wonder what I could have done differently and I don't want you ever going to that space. You're too precious my dear, too beloved, and I just want to you remind you how truly special you are and how much you mean to me.
You, my dear, are such a gift to this world and the caliber of man who GETS you in this lifetime will be spending a great deal of his time thanking his lucky stars, daily if not by the minute. Any person short of that simply doesn't understand what's in his hands and doesn't deserve to have a priceless treasure that he treats casually and recklessly. Just know this, I love you and I'm sending your heart a HUGE hug from mine.
Needless to say, I just wanted to remind each of you broken-hearted over a relationship, a crush, a job opportunity, a friend or a disappointing situation, that you are indeed awesome.
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