By Daniella Aryeh, Guest Blogger July 10, 2015
We just finished graduation season. I myself just graduated from grad school, and while I’m so excited to start the next chapter in my life, it’s also crazy nerve-wracking. Whether or not you are graduating, September is a time of changes for many. I know that no matter whether you are starting a new school in the fall or a new job, moving to a new place, or whatever else, you probably feel the way that I do. Many people will probably say to you some version of what they have been saying to me, which is “just keep your head up. You’ll be ok. Beginnings are scary but it’s going to be fine.”
A couple years ago I found a video of my favorite actress, Amy Poehler, giving the Keynote speech at Harvard University. If you don’t know Amy, go find out who she is ASAP. Trust me, you’ll fall in love with her. Amy is the queen of comedy right now, and there’s almost no one out there that makes me laugh harder than she does (check her out on “SNL” and “Parks and Recreation”). Yet she is still able to be serious when need be, and give advice to those who need it (now go check out her YouTube channel “Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls”).
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The advice she gave the students is very relevant to all of us. I recently found that video again, and it’s amazing! She infused her well-known wit and humor along with some amazing advice, and I thought I would share a little of what she said with you all:
Listen to others
Live in the moment
Make sure you play with people who have your back
Make big choices early and often
The answers to a lot of life’s questions are often in someone else’s face. Try putting your iPhones down once in a while, and look at other people. Other people’s faces will tell you amazing things.
Take risks now. As you grow older, you get more fearful, and less flexible.
You never know what’s around the corner unless you peak.
Keep your mind open to possibilities and your mouth closed on matters you don’t know about.
Limit your “always” and your “nevers.”
Even though you’re smart, you’re allowed to say “I don’t know.” Even though you’re in high demand, you’re allowed to say “let me get back to you.”
Continue to share your heart with others, even if it’s broken.
Find a group of people that challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.
And one of the biggest things it seemed that she learned is YOU CAN’T DO IT ALONE. As you go through the rest of your life, make sure you are open to collaborating with others. Other people’s ideas can be better than your own. Find a group of people that challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life. You are not where you are today because you did it on your own. You are where you are because someone gave you strength, and helped you get to where you are. This in itself should help you feel less alone.
So, take this with you onto the next chapter of your lives. And if I were you, I would check out the rest of this video. I didn’t relay everything Amy said, and of course her delivery is amazing. I hope these words inspired you as they did me, to go one to the next chapter of your life with strength.
Oh, and one last note, as Amy said, “would it kill you to be nicer to your parents?” Remember, they love you, helped you, and supported you. They are your biggest fans. Be better to them!
What advice do you have for transitioning into new things? Tell us below!
Daniella is a certified speech language pathologist living in NY. She loves traveling, meeting new people, hanging on the beach, and will read anything she can get my hands on. She is obsessed with country music and constantly quotes Friends and One Tree Hill.
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