By: Maggie Manfredi, Guest Blogger
Recently my roommate got in a car accident. She had a few minor injuries but other than that she was unharmed, although her car was totaled. Of course she was emotional because it was traumatic and there is a lot of added stress dealing with the repercussions. But she was so lucky to make it out basically unscathed and it made me do some thinking.
We sat up talking about how lucky she was, how God must have been on her side, someone was watching over her, protecting her and keeping her safe. It made me reflect on the petty fights we recently had in our home and how trivial they were; how we should have more fun and spend more time together. Then I began to feel guilty that an incident like this is what it takes to push the drama aside and to be truly thankful.
But it felt good to reflect and it felt good to be grateful. Sometimes I catch myself going through a whole day consistently complaining. Work was slow, there’s no time for the gym, there are dishes in the sink, bills to be paid, etc. I am sick of making excuses for myself and telling anyone who will listen why my life sucks today. My life doesn’t suck, my life is pretty darn good and here’s why:
I am free. It is truly amazing to be 22 years old, living with roommates, not making much money, not knowing where I will be in a year, just living every day as it comes. Sometimes I catch myself wanting to fast forward to when I have a successful career and all the little things have fallen into place. But the reality is that isn’t reality. Life has turns and twists and me at 30 will probably be trying to solve just as many unanswered questions in life as I am today.
I am loved. It is so easy to fall into loneliness as a default setting. I am single and living on my own. Still working to figure out who I am and what brings me bliss. Happiness comes in all forms: a good book and hot tea, or fruity drinks and wild friends. People come and go from my life and sometimes I take it personally when people move on or there is distance for one reason or another. But I am trying to focus more on the people who are with me now, ready to help or ready for fun.
Nothing is textbook and a lot of things don’t make sense. But it is okay and I think I owe it to myself and to the people who support me to have optimism and to find peace with the unknown and the imperfections. Accidents happen, relationships end, and fear tends to creep up on you. But the beauty of it is there is always a chance to make things right, to try again or to move forward.
“I believe the world will change only when we change ourselves. And that starts with finding ourselves. And that starts with listening to ourselves, learning to quiet the clamor in our minds and the voices of everyone around us and moving toward what feels right. It means taking a journey like the spectacular and terrifying and ultimately mind-blowing adventure I’ve been on. I hope that you, too, will choose to have a journey instead of just a life. Actually, I hope it’s a full-on expedition”-Kelly Cutrone
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Maggie is a nearly with-it working girl and proud owner of a B.A. in Communication. She spends her free time on the phone with one of her three crazy sisters or reviewing some form of entertainment news. Her hobbies do not include competitive dog grooming, CrossFit or puzzles (she is lousy at puzzles).