The Swim Party Dress Code

By Rachel Benbrook, Regular Contributor

Recently a letter from school officials dictating a strict dress code for a school swim party sparked debate as it went viral. The school officials said that the 6th grade swimming party required for the female students to wear a non-white t-shirt over their swimsuits.  One mom, Jennifer Smith, had plenty to say about these guidelines. Although Jennifer was the mother a male student invited to the party, she felt it was inappropriate for the school to set such high demands on female students only. The school responded by saying that “To address the issue of appropriate dress for the swim party, we believed asking the girls to wear t shirts over their swimsuits was the solution that addressed the issue most sensitively.”


I personally have always been unsure about where I stand on topics regarding uniforms and dress codes, particularly in the school environment. As someone who has spent a great deal of time working and volunteering with children, as well as currently being employed at a school, I understand the necessity of having some type of structure to student’s appearance. I also understand the fact that dress codes and our appearance both exist and matter in the real world.  Restaurants, and certainly business professionals have expectations on how we dress, and many will reserve the right to refuse service, or not hire us, if we do not comply with certain societal norms. Therefore, should schools and other educational bodies begin promoting this concept early on?

I see the validity in promoting positive dress, however I have always felt that the majority of dress codes were directed at young women.

I think that Jennifer Smith had many valid points when she challenged the schools policy. The school chose to have a swim party, therefore wouldn’t it be understandable that students would be wearing swimsuits and swimwear? Yes, to be fair the letter did say no Speedos, which we can presume are predominantly for male students, however why did each of the girls have to be wearing a non-white t-shirt?

The overall nature of the letter was to discourage young women from disclosing their bodies. Seeing as though the students were only 12 years old, this seems a bit extreme to me.  I can empathize with the schools concern over promoting an atmosphere of positivity in all aspects of dress, however if we do not want young women disclosing themselves in swim attire, perhaps the school should have chosen a different type of party to reward the students.

I think there is a distinct difference between encouraging people to take pride in how they dress, and to dress appropriately for the occasion and shaming young girls for their bodies.

I believe in this instance the school crossed that line by trying to force 12 year old girls to cover themselves. This sends the message that young women have to cover their bodies, but their male peers do not. I think that instances like this are more harmful than we realize, and it is time that we begin to consider the impact dress codes can have when they are unfairly targeted at young women and girls. We need more people like Jennifer Smith who are willing to take a stand when they see things like this and alert others to the harmful and unfair potential consequences of dress codes such as this one. 

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About Rachel

RACHEL_BENBROOK.jpgRachel is a graduate of Oklahoma State University and the University of Leeds where she studied Political Communications. She is a passionate advocate of strong friendships, caffeine, social justice, current events, travels and adventures, as well as all things peanut butter. She enjoys watching Parks and Recreation, as well as teaching English to new language learners.



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  • commented 2015-06-08 07:03:56 -0700
    Stephen, the point is girls are always being body shamed. We are taught at a young age how to dress and not to dress. When I was a preteen, I recall wearing tshirts over my swimsuit because psychologically, I thought people would judge my body. I used to be extremely self conscious about my pale skin because, socially, I thought I needed to be tan. Instead, they looked at me weird because I was the only person wearing a shirt.

    Why must we hide our bodies? Because society says, “You aren’t good enough to be who you are, so let’s give you airbrushed, tan, photoshopped women in the smallest, scandalous swimsuit because society loves this!” Society also says, “Boys will be boys and they have UNCONTROLLABLE SEXUAL DESIRES!”

    Girls AND boys need to be taught at a young age how to appropriately respond to their hormones. Most of the time adolescence is not explained by the parents or rarely talked about properly in schools. Society has corrupted the way we view adolescence and how we should deal with our hormones. Everyone needs to start teaching children at a young age that our bodies may be different; however, we should treat everyone with the same respect. We should be advocating body acceptance instead of body shaming. If we as a society changed our views, maybe the phrase “boys will be boys” will become a thing of the past and adolescents could swim in any swim suit comfortably among each other without judgement. I would love to live to see that day. I hope you would, too.
  • commented 2015-06-06 13:58:37 -0700
    Really? You had an issue with this. If I had a son, I would not want him “disclosing” his body by wearing a speedo, so yes, he needs to cover it up. I think that you have missed something vital here…. kids at that age are at a disparate range of sexual maturity. Some are way more developed and others are still pre-pubescent and they hardly have the emotional or intellectual capacity to deal with all that it means yet. Not to mention the teasing and attention that gets called to the one who is more developed or the opposite attention for the one who isn’t. Hey, I have an idea. Why not let everyone go topless and let the boys wear jock straps to the party? Too extreme? For whom? Now who is the clothes police?

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