The Right Kind of Love

By: Abigail Zeitler, Regular Contributor

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.” -Buddha

When I woke up this morning, I smiled. At this moment I am happier than I have ever been. I can attribute this to the fact that I am surrounded by individuals in my life who lift me up. These people are responsible for the ever-present smile on my face.

However, this smile wasn’t always there. Two years ago I began the journey that would lead me to learning what happiness is all about. I wasn’t yet satisfied with my friends, my job, my major… my anything to be honest. For some reason, I felt like I was a puzzle made of pieces that wouldn’t fit together just right, so I could never be complete. Some pieces were missing and others were completely wrong for the picture that I wanted to look like.


Because of this, I had to make some hard decisions and accept the hard truth: I wasn’t accepting the love I deserved. I deserved to be happy and to be surrounded by people that loved me for me. I came to realize that the people I had been surrounding myself with were not pouring love into my cup, so I never felt full enough to pour love onto others.

I didn’t yet know what my self-worth entailed, and I’m not going to say it was easy to figure out. But it started by accepting the right kind of love.

The right kind of love is going on a date with a man who respects you and treats you right.

The right kind of love is spending time with friends who support you in everything you do.

The right kind of love is finding a job that allows you to empower others and do good.

The right kind of love is having some “you” time to recharge after a long week.

In short, the right kind of love is revamping your life so that you are surrounded by positivity that eventually allows you to become a positive person.

When you surround yourself with the right kind of love, you learn what self-worth is all about, because the people around you guide you through this learning process. So you should ask yourself, what things do you need to let go of in order to find the right kind of love? 

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About Abigail,


Abigail Zeitler is a junior at The University of Texas at Austin. She loves coffee,traveling, photography, books and just a little bit of everything else in this world. Her passions stem from her drive to make the world a better place, so when she’s not writing or staying busy on campus you will find her volunteering. Her current venture is biking from Austin to Alaska this summer to fight cancer with the Texas 4000, You get tips on how to succeed in college on her or find more of her at


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