I recently interviewed the lovely Mel Robbins. She's the star of the hit A&E show, Monster In-Laws. Mel also hosts a syndicated radio show, penned a national best-seller, served as a criminal defense lawyer and worked as a columnist for SUCCESS magazine. Even with all her professional accolades, she’s most proud of being a mother and a wife. Needless to say, she’s the real deal in every way possible. After our interview, I had the opportunity to go to dinner with her where she totally and completely rocked my world.
Why I was surprised that she cut right through and pinpointed the exact reason I’ve struggled with relationships when she hosts a TV show doing just that, I don’t know. But her compassion, dedication to her loved ones and endless pursuit of her passion left me more inspired than anything I could have fathomed. The thing she mentioned that resonated with me the most was in regard to hitting the “snooze button” in life. She said that putting off what you really want was like hitting snooze because the extra five minutes can’t really make a difference and yet the average person hits it three times before finally getting out of their cozy bed.
Her challenge was to set the alarm 30 minutes before you have to get up and when the alarm goes off, have the determination to get out of bed and start your day not when you feel like it, but right then and there. Action is what she preaches, so if you want it (whatever “it” may be) then you have to wake up and fight for it every single day with everything you have. Most people talk about it, or worse, just daydream about what they wish they were doing and yet the difference between those who live other people’s dreams and those who live their own is the level of action taken. That's what I’ve been missing.
She touched on how often insecurities, doubts, fears and our desire to be cautious actually hurt instead of help us. Our inspiration is immediately siphoned off and we revert to the safe zone of no change when we opt to make no choices whatsoever. It's also in that place of non-movement that monotony runs rampant and dashed dreams fall by the wayside. She reminded everyone in that audience what it means to fight for something, to validate their dreams while courageously persevering in the midst of adversity and in the face of the mental gremlin telling you that youâ��ll never be good enough. She spoke about our uniqueness and encouraged us to see it for ourselves.
After dinner, I was more inspired than I have been in years. She reignited my fire, reminded me why I do what I do and now with new eyes, I see the possibility of a world where girls are reminded that we are on the same team. Iâ��m blinded by the support, love, and encouragement girls have the potential of offering as opposed to the current catty, threatened, insecure model. The world she painted was marvelous and I couldnâ��t be more onboard with supporting her and the work she does. If you get a chance to hear her speak, youâ��ll know what I mean.
For the record, you never know the impact you have on a personâ��s life, so be patient, selfless and compassionate. In doing so, you are truly changing the world, one individual at a time. As for Mel, thank you for taking the time to remind me of who I am and what I want.
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