By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor
This weekend I had the pleasure of watching one of my dearest friends get married. They declared their love and dedication in front of friends and family. This expression of love really got me thinking about how much of our lives is spent searching the world for that one person. The one that will go on adventures with you and will also lie on the couch all day watching movies with you. When we are with our friends we are either talking about what we like or would change about our bodies, our goals in life, or we are talking about our relationships. Our love life dominates most conversations and we always come back to it as one of the biggest mysteries. Where do we find that eternal happiness? How do we build up the confidence to commit to someone for the rest of our lives? And further, how did we ever survive those situations where someone broke our heart? I honestly don’t have any answers, but I do know that a broken heart is a universal feeling and finding unconditional love is always something we are wishing for.
I remember in high school, I was never the girl to cry. I was there for everyone else, and really tried to keep it together so people would think I was stronger than I really was. The one time I remember crying, rather sobbing, in front of my friends was in the car on the way back from a water park we had been at all day. The boy, that I swear was totally oblivious to how many pieces he broke my heart into, had spent the entire day ignoring me for some other girl when I was his date in the first place. Now this isn’t even that big of a deal looking back, but at the time I remember feeling so small. I wasn’t wanted, and I never knew why. I’m in the same situation again as an adult. The one I’m with isn’t interested anymore, and I blame myself when I shouldn’t. I feel insignificant and like I’m fighting for someone that has already moved on. I don’t tell these situations for anyone to feel sorry for me, but I tell them because I want everyone to know that whatever versions of this story they are living in their own lives, they aren’t alone. We all want to be loved and needed. We want that forever life with someone that will be there for us no matter what. There is nothing harder than being the one in love but not being the one that is loved.
No matter who you love, heartache and happily ever after are inevitable. Eventually someone will break your heart. Hopefully we have friends and family that will help us put it back together. But even more than that, I hope that one day we will find a way to pick ourselves up. I hope we can be confident in who we are and in our worth that we can rise above the rejection and the unfairness that love sometimes leaves us with. No one’s path is the same, but happiness and contentment are the goal whether you find it in a partner or just in yourself. Lift someone up when the one they love leaves them alone. Let them know that they are worth so much more than what they are feeling in that moment. Also, celebrate with those who have found their happiness. I will always cherish being a part of my friends continuing love story this weekend and it excites me for the future. It reminds me that love is what keeps life moving forward; it quiets the fears in my heart and awakens a new hope in tomorrow.
She moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.
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