Strength In The Number One

By: S. Elle Cameron, Guest Blogger August 20, 2015

Me, myself and I: that’s all I got in the end, that’s what I found out; and it ain’t no need to cry, I took a vow that from now on I’m going to be my own best friend. "Me, Myself & I" by Beyonce

There’s strength in numbers. Growing up, that’s something we all heard, and to this very day it’s a common saying. While it’s true, that doesn’t mean that the number one is weak or lonely. If you play the cards right, there can be more strength in that lone number than in multiple.

In life, there’s something very important that I learned. It’s important to have alone time and to keep to yourself at times. There should be things that you hold so sacred that it’s for your knowledge only. Little things like this keep us going as human beings.


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Sometimes keeping to yourself helps you to continue to work hard and stay focused. I’m not saying to hold everything in, but I am saying to hold secrets with yourself. Have an inside joke with just you. Build a friendship with yourself. All of this will assists you in getting to know yourself better and knowledge of oneself is the ultimate power.

You don’t need a group or a team to be successful. While community is important, it’s also important to know how to be strong on your own; know how to stand on your own two feet. You don’t need permission to be great nor do you need approval from anyone. The only person who has to know and approve of anything you do is yourself. Take that first step and everything else will fall into place all around you.

Knowing exactly what you want means you’re already halfway there.

I’m not saying to be selfish in the negative sense of the word but I am telling you to be selfish in the best way possible. Learn to please yourself and remain focused on what you have in front of you, so you can build an empire of your own someday. Being a successful female means knowing how to be your own best friend before you can be anyone else’s.

The better you know yourself, the easier it is to remain focused on your goals. Knowing exactly what you want means you’re already halfway there. There’s no need to apologize to anyone for who you are and who you want to be. If they don’t understand or if they try to stall you, kick them to the curb! You’re worth more than that and you don’t need “numbers” to make you important…you just need that ONE number. As long as you’re in, no one else has to be.There’s strength in the number one and there’s strength in being THAT GIRL!

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S._ELLE_CAMERON_writer_bio_(1).jpgS. Elle Cameron is the 22-year-old author of the Young Adult novel, A Tragic Heart. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. To learn more, visit her at or Follow on Twitter: @SElleCameron


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