By: Kaycee Wolf, Guest Blogger July 20, 2015
I try to be a positive and strong person. I try to remember to be true to myself and work on my issues. However, I recently got my heart broken, and it feels like my world is crumbling around me.
How do you go from being in love one minute to having someone you thought was your soulmate tell you that he can’t love you like you love him? We were so happy, and were making progress on our issues. We both had issues with intimacy and handled it in completely opposite ways.
I fought so hard for our relationship and put so much effort into making it work. And no matter how much I wanted it and fought for it, it didn’t work. I felt like an incredibly weak failure.
But I’m not.
Loving someone with all you have is an incredibly strong thing to do. I have always been so scared of letting someone in, and frightened of relinquishing control over my heart. We can’t go through life scared to let in those around us.
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It took me a long time to realize that and to start practicing it. Although I feel pretty awful now, I know that I will survive it. I pictured a future with him, and now I’m trying to figure out a future without him in it. One of the most important things I have to remember during this time is that I am a strong and pretty incredible person, and I will be okay.
I put so much effort into making our relationship work, that I put myself second. Although compromise and sharing is very important in a relationship, don’t ever lose sight of who you are in the process.
Falling in love is so wonderful, but sometimes I forgot how much I love myself. You should never lose yourself in the process of joining your life with someone else’s life. No matter how much you love someone, be true to who you are.
I’ve spent the last week trying to pinpoint what went wrong. I’ve turned over everything that I could have done wrong. Then I realized, I didn’t do anything wrong this time. It wasn’t me.
I am an incredibly lovable person. I can’t waste anymore time and energy trying to fix a relationship where I am not getting the love I deserve. For so long, I did not realize that.
I can’t waste anymore time and energy trying to fix a relationship where I am not getting the love I deserve.
And yes, getting my heart broken in the process really sucks. Really, really sucks, but I hope that one day I will be grateful for the experience. I am proud of the fact that I love with my whole heart, and I finally allowed myself to be vulnerable with someone.
There are times when personal growth comes at a price, but we should not shy away from these experiences. I need a little time to heal, but my broken heart will mend. I never want to look back and realize that I missed out on some amazing things because I was too afraid of getting hurt.
What are your favorite things to do to show yourself some love? Tell us below!
Kaycee is a novice blogger living in Central Arkansas. She is a lover of music, writing, and a comfortable pair of yoga pants. Although an attorney by day, her recent quest for health and positive self-image started her blog adventures at http://www.voluptuousmisadventures.com.