By Courtney Giardina, Regular Contributor
It seems like every time I’m turning on the television or scrolling through news articles I read about another celebrity feud. Ciara vs. Rhianna, Brandi Glanville vs. Leann Rimes and Kim Kardashian vs. Beyonce. Some celebrities even go as far as lashing out on social media or commenting publicly during interviews. The media thrives on how many boyfriends Taylor Swift has had, what outfit Miley Cyrus will wear next and how much weight celebrities gain and lose.
In a recent interview with Harper’s Bizarre, actress Gwyneth Paltrow touched a little bit about this type of backlash and media attention when she said, "Women really need to examine why they’re so vitriolic to other women; why they want to twist words, why they want to read about someone else in a negative light and why that feels good to them ..."
This is a question that we should all ask ourselves. I personally believe that it is the constant pressure we put upon ourselves and the unrealistic expectations of what life is supposed to be like that allows us to look down upon others to in hopes that it will make us feel better. The notion that perfection in others doesn’t exist is somewhat of a calming factor when we look at life this way.
Paltrow gives us hope in her interview though by acknowledging that despite the obvious negative media she has received and that continues to build in today’s society, that we are still able to build healthy connections when we focus on change for the good and making a difference. She says, “I like the companionship of working in a team; we’ve become a collective of women, which I love.”
So how do we continue to build these healthy relationships? How do stop a Mean Girl revolution that seems to have overtaken our society? The answer is acceptance. Not only for one another, but for ourselves. We desire so much of what we don’t have that we forget how grateful we should be for what we do. Once we can learn to accept the person that we are and the path that we are on, we no longer need to look at others with envy or distraction.
How are you building healthy relationships between yourself and the other women in your life? Why is this important to you?
Courtney was born and raised in a suburb outside of Rochester, NY. She now calls Charlotte, NC home. Each day she lives by the motto that we create the life we imagine for ourselves. Her debut novel Tear Stained Beaches was released in 2013, her second novel is currently in editing and she has begun work on novel #3. Having a passion for cheerleading most of her life, it’s no surprise her spare time is spent currently as the head coach for a local middle school team and also as part of the Charlotte Hounds Major League Lacrosse dance team. She tweets under @sweetangeleyz and shares her latest adventures at The Girl Behind the Covers.