Stop Hating On Yourself

By Daniella Aryeh, Guest BloggerOctober 29, 2015


I saw a video online that begins with a young girl telling her father that a classmate was picking on her and calling her names. The father then breaks out into song, and gave some incredible advice to his daughter about how to deal with being bullied.

The song sends a pretty clear message: love yourself! (Which is the title to this song).

Despite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, you must love yourself. Tattoo it on your brain.

 I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself. It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves.

I was sitting with a bunch of friends the other night, and one after the next I heard the following conversation:

Friend 1: “ugh I’m having such an ugly night!! I don’t feel like going out!”

Friend 2: “Are you kidding?? You look gorgeous! My face is breaking out! I look hideous!”

Friend 3: “And I’m just having a fat day!”

Identify something about you that you may not adore and find a way to like it, even a little bit.

And I called my friends out on this. There is so much out there in the media telling us how to look and what to say. Everyone hears it, it effects us all whether we believe it or not. But we hate on ourselves so badly too. We have to stop listening to other people calling us names, and stop listening to that horrible voice inside us telling us how awful we are.

Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in 10 years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. Be amazed now. See how incredible you are.

Identify something about you that you may not adore and find a way to like it, even a little bit.

Like every girl, I look in the mirror and my eyes go directly to the spots I don’t like. I gained weight in grad school, and I just see the parts where the weight is lying. I am also diabetic, and sometimes I feel like I can’t hide my insulin pump well, and it drives me crazy. I could (and honestly do) sit around and feel sorry for myself. Or I can learn to love myself for everything I am. Either way the choice is mine to make. 

Why can’t I stand up for myself and love myself the way I do for my friends?

When I hear my friends hating on themselves, I stand up for them because I love them. Why can’t I stand up for myself and love myself the way I do for my friends?

I have turned something I don’t necessarily “love” having into another piece in the puzzle of me, and part of why I love that puzzle. Instead of thinking “I am an incomplete human being because of my flaws,” I really try to think “I am an incredible human being with a profound sense of touch and understanding and a huge capacity for love. So there.”

And repeat this daily: “I’m beautiful, I’m worthy. And those mean words can’t hurt me. I’m priceless. I’m smart. And I love myself. I’m focused on my health.”

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About Daniella

DANIELLA_ARYEH_writer_bio.jpgDaniella is a certified speech language pathologist living in NY. She loves traveling, meeting new people, hanging on the beach, and will read anything she can get her hands on. She is obsessed with country music, and is constantly quoting Friends and One Tree Hill.


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