By: S. Elle Cameron, IATG ContributorFebruary 9, 2016
“I'm the one that's got to die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.”-Jimi Hendrix
What you do does not concern anyone else. What others do does not concern you. We’ve all heard those statements before, but how many of us really apply them? Lately, I’ve been experiencing the opinions of others, and it’s been affecting my life. Usually, I do whatever I want, regardless of what others say, but even when you do that, it can be hard to ignore people talking about you (whether it’s behind your back or to your face). The point of this article is to let everyone know that your life is yours to live however you please. You’re the one who has to live with the decisions.
Opinions can hurt, but that doesn’t make them true.
Everyone has a specific way of doing things and just because it might’ve worked out for them, doesn’t mean it will work out the same for you. I think the biggest issue is that people don’t know how to accept that everyone is different and value those differences. Something that matters to me may not matter to you. It’s important to remember that we like different things and have different preferences.
Don’t ever let anyone try to make you feel as if you should change your plans or go an alternate route simply because they would.
You know what’s best for you, and you own that gut feeling telling you to either do it or let it go. That gut feeling belongs to you; it is your own intuition telling you that YOUR life will be better if you make that particular choice.
I wouldn’t advise going against that even on your worst day.
Wanting something different isn’t a crime, and valuing something that’s viewed as non-traditional isn’t one either. People have a tendency of making you feel otherwise, because it goes against the norm. Maybe the norm just isn’t for you, and you shouldn’t force it. You’ll thank yourself later for going left when others were telling you to go right. It’s your life, you should be happy. It’s simple as that.
Always do what’s best for you or what you believe is in your best interest. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t listen to others' advice; it just means you should take certain things with a grain of salt. Listen, be polite, but don’t lose your ability to make a decision for yourself. Weigh the pros and cons and come up with a solution that works best for you.
It’s a lot like that Shakespeare quote, “This above all; To thine own self be true.” He didn’t just mean be who you are and be true to yourself; he meant to be selfish sometimes and make decisions with yourself in mind. Always take care of you before you take care of anyone else, and do what you need to do instead of trying to spare the feelings of others. BE THAT GIRL and BE WHO YOU ARE!
How do you remain true to yourself? How do you resist the influence of others? Think about people that you admire who go their own way and tell them how much you admire their integrity.
About S. Elle
S. Elle Cameron is the 22-year-old author of the Young Adult novel, A Tragic Heart. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. To learn more, visit her at www.sellecameron.com or www.sellecameron.blogspot.com Follow on Twitter: @SElleCameron
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