By Adrienne Credo, Regular ContributorNovember 20, 2015
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There are days when we feel like our thoughts are not valid enough to put out into the universe. We downplay how we feel and censor our speech despite the truths we wish to express. Maybe we fear that our opinion is the unpopular one, or we fear that our thoughts and feelings do not make sense to us so they may not make sense to someone else.
Something I have learned over the years is to always speak my mind, even if it’s one of the hardest things I will ever do.
Why? Because the power of overcoming something like that pushes me to continue being the best version of myself. How? Because up until that point, I thought I could not possibly deal with the situation. Then I did.
However, there are times when speaking our truth can be more difficult than we anticipated. We are all guilty of shoving our own thoughts and feelings aside for the sake of friend, significant other, or coworker. If we continue to do that to ourselves, depriving ourselves of speaking our truth, we may begin to feel more toxicity within ourselves that will cause our relationships to sour. The best thing we can do for ourselves, and for those around us, is to express what is on our minds so that we not only preserve our relationships, but lead a more authentic life where we strive to be the best versions of ourselves.
We also have to be strong enough to speak our truth so that others feel safe to do so.
By working towards speaking our truths, we may find other people along the way who share the same sentiments and thereby surround ourselves with authentic and strong individuals who build each other up instead of tear each other down. We have the power to choose the types of relationships we want to continue building in our lives, and with that power comes the responsibility to choose those who unabashedly speak their own truth. Choosing people who push us to be great, to challenge the very foundations of our truths, and to understand the dynamic world around us is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves, because these individuals are the ones who help us express our innermost thoughts, even if we do not want to do so.
Some of us have found this group of people, and some of us have not. Trust that there are other people in this world who feel the way you feel and think the way you think. Just because your opinion may be the unpopular opinion within one room does not mean it is an unpopular opinion elsewhere. So speak your truth. Speak your mind. Speak out because what you do, how you feel, and the thoughts you think are all valid and are worth sharing with the world.
Do you ever feel like your can't speak your mind? How do you overcome these thoughts? Tell us below!
Adrienne is an undergraduate at University of California, Irvine studying Criminology, Law and Society with a minor in International Studies. She is also a passionate photographer (you can check out her work below!). She loves watching TV shows like Chicago PD (shout out to Sophia Bush!) and Law & Order: SVU with her roommates and creates funny videos with her friends. Check out some of her photographs on Flickr. https://www.flickr.com/photos/123906482@N03/ Follow Adrienne on Twitter: http://twitter.com/ayjaycee and on Instagram: http://instagram.com/a.credo
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