By: Gabrielle Hastings, Guest Blogger
The past seven months of my life have brought with them a number of challenges: transitioning to single life, helping close friends get through some hard times, and managing my classes, work, and other activities. It hasn’t been easy, and there have definitely been days when I felt like I was simply not good enough or perfect enough. Luckily, IATG has taught me a thing or two about the importance of self-love.
I consider self-love to be an underused form of therapy that people often take for granted. We forget how important it is to love ourselves, especially when things get tough and it's easier to rely on the comfort of others. Anyone can build up a false sense of self-esteem by constantly being built up by others, but a true accomplishment is being able to build yourself up all on your own.
Authentic confidence cannot rely solely on the contributions of others; you have to be able to cultivate it yourself. I can’t take every bad day I have and make it someone else’s problem. When I find myself lost in the darkness of my insecurities, I have learned to let the power of self-love light the way, rather than trying to steal the light from others.
Self-love is for everyone. And it is important to remember that self-love is as much of an action as the love you display for other people; you need to actively show yourself love. When I want to show myself love I grab my laptop and start writing a new song, start working on a new blog post, or indulge in Netflix for a few hours. For you it might be something different, but it doesn’t matter as long as you feel better about yourself after you’ve done it.
I would argue that no one can have 100% control of their emotions and be 100% self-reliant simultaneously. There will still be days when you need others to reassure you and bring you out of the dark, but I can promise you the sooner you start to practice self-love, the less often those days will be.
Let's chat! Do you ever find yourself depending on others to make you happy? How do you show love to yourself?
Gabrielle is an undergraduate student at The Ohio State University studying Human Resources. She is one of many wonderful members of IATG OSU and is thankful for the positive changes this organization has enabled her to make in her life. In her spare time, she enjoys singing, writing, and binge watching television. Check out her personal blog: http://unpeudeeverything.blogspot.com