By Kelsey Smith, Regular ContributorNovember 17, 2015
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Year 25 has been quite an eye opener for me. I don’t think I’ve been having a quarter life crisis but more of a reflection over my past 25 years. It’s been a very emotional year, and one thing I’ve been really working on is self-love, and, more importantly, emotional self-love.
Throughout these past few years, when I hear friends preach self-love, most of what I’m hearing is centered on body image or what we put in our bodies.
I don’t think that’s a bad thing; we definitely should be conscious of these things, but what I’ve come to find is that the biggest hurdle in my self-love struggle is believing in myself.
People always assume that when you show confidence, you believe in yourself, but that’s not always the case. I have a ton of confidence in lots of different situations from talking in front of groups, singing a solo, or just giving friendly advice. I can do that no sweat, but ask me to tell you how much I actually stopped to praise myself today, and I don’t know if I could give you a number. I have an extremely harsh inner critic, and let me tell ya, she’s been quite a woman to quiet down.
Throughout these past few weeks, I have been intentionally speaking to myself, and not in my head. I’ve been actually saying words of encouragement and praise out loud. I’ve even gotten so fired up that there have been tears a few times.
You guys, that is self-love, bringing yourself to tears because you are praising yourself so loudly and powerfully. It’s an incredible experience!
Now, this is something I’ve never done before, and the first time I did it... wow did I feel weird. All I could think about was “Are these people in traffic going to think I’m a weirdo over here talking to myself?” But you know what I realized? Who the heck cares! Who cares what others think of you. The real question you have to ask yourself, is what do you think of you? And once you find that inner love, hold on to it and never let it go.
So, I would encourage all you ladies to practice out loud, preach-it-style love to yourself. Shout to the roof tops what you love about yourself. When you accomplish the most tiny of tasks, say out loud, “I’m proud of you! Get it girl!”
I promise, it’ll be the best compliment you’ve ever received.
How is your self-love? Do you ever give yourself compliments? How does it change it outlook about yourself? Tell us below!
Kelsey is an aspiring interior designer by night, and customer service provider by day. She is happily engaged and loves days spent with her fiancé, and loveable pup outdoors or snuggled up for never-ending Netflix. She has a bachelors in Business and Spanish from a tiny little school in Indiana, but her true love is design. She's working on her second bachelor’s degree in Interior Design now! She feels a calling to inspire people with her words and stories. She also has her own blog on wordpress, check it, https://goldarrowdesigns.wordpress.com/
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