Sexy is not a Requirement

By Devin Riggs, Regular ContributorOctober 29, 2015


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Halloween is in a few days, and I still don’t know what I want to dress up as. This is partly because I wasn’t even sure I’d be going out or staying in, and partly because picking out a costume is actually really stressful for me (yay for being indecisive)!

When we were kids it was easier to just put on a white sheet and cut out eyeholes or simply put on a mask, but that doesn’t cut it anymore.

There’s so much hype over how elaborate or how pop culture your costume is, or even more so…how sexy.

And, to be honest, I am sick and tired of seeing an endless list of “sexy nurse” and “slutty pumpkin” options constantly thrown in my face. It’s ridiculous that Halloween has become this sexualized event that used to be so wholesome. Women especially feel the pressure to be just the right amount of sexy or sweet. It’s less about being scary and more about how much skin is showing. And I’m sorry, but do you know how COLD it can get during the end of October? I definitely prefer to be warm, thank you very much.

That’s not to say you can’t wear a sexy costume that shows a lot of skin, even if it’s cold. What’s important is that you wear something you’re comfortable in, because you want to wear it and it makes you feel good.

However, you shouldn’t feel like you have to impress other people and dress up as something you’re not fully comfortable with, just to fit their expectations.

Trust me, it’s not as much fun.

I usually get by aiming for cheap, simple, and slightly more practical. Let’s be real. When I was younger I went trick-or-treating as a ski bum, because it was freezing and I refused to go outside in anything else. In college I went as Waldo and all I needed was red tape, a white shirt, and a hat. It was the most fun I’ve had with so little pressure.

I keep wanting to do a group costume. They add depth to a concept, and it’s fun to coordinate with friends. I’ve always wanted to do a full Avengers cast, but at this late stage in the game I think I’m on my own this time…maybe next year!

The possibilities are endless. Society may say “sexy” or “slutty” are your only choices, but they really aren’t. Use your imagination, get creative, get scary…Whatever costume you end up going with, please remember: sexy is an option, not a requirement.

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About Devin 

DEVIN_RIGGS_writer_bio_(1).jpgDevin has a degree in education with a focus in English. She is working to publish her first collection of poetry while also learning the art of patience. Her passions include Doctor Who, penguins, hats and scarves, potatoes, dancing, photography, and making people happy. She believes in the healing powers of music, spending time in the great outdoors, and a good night sleep. 


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