By: Alexis Meads, Regular Contributor
I was on the phone with one of my clients the other day and we were talking about being positive. In particular, using positive affirmations.
Suddenly she asked me, “If I have negative thoughts and feelings should I address them, or ignore them?”
- Because she is awesome
- Because this is a REAL issue that we don’t know how to handle
Since a very young age I’ve been really interested in personal development. I studied psychology in school, read self-help books in college, and attended every seminar and workshop I could get my hands on.
It seems to be fairly agreed upon that optimism and positive thinking get you far in life. It affects you physically, mentally, and impacts your overall quality of life.
But what about when you just have an “off” day? Are we allowed to have those?
YES! In fact…it’s unavoidable.
Look, in life, shit happens. It’s life. It’s how we deal with that stuff that determines the quality of life.
That’s not to say that you’re not going to go through periods of grieving, anger, frustration, or sometimes just plain feeling down.
You can be on The Path, on your self-growth journey, and not feel happy all the time. It’s A-OK with me.
So when you’re feeling less-than-excited about life, and having negative thoughts, yes address them. It’s when we bury our feelings that real problems start to arise. Address these feelings and allow yourself to feel them. Acknowledge them for what they are: real feelings that you are experiencing. Then take the time you need to slow down and allow it to play out.
Now, here’s the tricky part.
Know when you’ve had enough. When the wallowing turns into depression. After feeling and processing your thoughts and emotions, say enough is enough and get on with your life!
Pick yourself back up, dust off, and move forward.
It’s taken me years of practice to really accept this process. But now that I’m able to do it, I feel happier, more fulfilled and more at peace than ever before.
Alexis Meads received her M.A. at Harvard University. She is a Certified Wellness Coach and Self-Love Expert. She helps women to fall madly in love, feel sexy and confident every day and create a life full of adventure. For more articles, visit www.AlexisMeads.com or download her Free Video Training here.
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