By: S. Elle Cameron, Guest Blogger
“Was I bitter? Absolutely. Hurt? You bet your sweet ass I was hurt. Who doesn't feel a part of their heart break at rejection. You ask yourself every question you can think of, what, why, how come, and then your sadness turns to anger. That's my favorite part. It drives me, feeds me, and makes one hell of a story.”- Jennifer Salaiz
There’s no easy way of saying it: rejection hurts! No one takes it well and no one wants to become a victim of it, yet at some point we all have to. Whether it’s rejection from a job, a partner, or your lifelong dream, rejection doesn’t feel good.
This topic is a major one for me because as a young, recently turned twenty-three year old I have to almost deal with rejection on a daily basis. The struggle of graduating college and finding a job is real! It doesn’t seem like it should be that hard after graduating with honors and possessing countless amounts of skills but the truth is, it’s harder than you think it would be. Almost everything in life is harder than we think it will be; that’s the thing to remember so we don’t go insane at the expense of rejection.
In this world, men are known as the go-getters while women are supposed to sit back and watch. Now that we’re living in a time where more and more women are taking control and moving up to leadership positions, women also have to face rejection more than ever before.
I know, I know, men are equipped to deal with rejection! We’re way too sensitive for things like that! See, that’s the thing, as women we should be used to rejection because we have been the world’s rejects for so long. We shouldn’t feel the need to limit ourselves because we are afraid of failing or someone telling us “no.” It’s time for us to be go-getters too and show all of those who once rejected us why they should be sorry.
It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be upset when we don’t get what we worked so hard for but we should never give up. Life will beat us down and push our faces into the concrete and keep it there if we allow it. I am telling you to never allow it! If you fall down, get up and fight harder. Remember that old saying, “If there’s a will, there’s a way?” If you’re willing to go after your goals/dreams then there is a way you can have it…more than one way! Never settle for one option or one way of doing things. If you fail the first time, try from a different angle. Even if you have to try a thousand times for the same thing, do it! You never know which number will cause you to hit the jackpot.
Rejection can cause grief and unbearable pain but the pain should never be bad enough that we completely give up. After being rejected so many times eventually it will get better. No, it won’t hurt any less but you’ll hurt for shorter amounts of time before you get back up and fight again. Don’t ever let rejection stop you from becoming THAT GIRL!
Handling rejection is a really important part of leading a healthy, happy life.
- Rejection rots, yep. But as S. Elle reminds us: it doesn't have to make a permanent dent. Think of a time when you felt rejected. Now list out at least three positive outcomes that came from that dismissal or disappointment.
About S. Elle Cameron
S. Elle Cameron is the 22 year old author of the Young Adult novel, A Tragic Heart. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. To learn more, visit her at www.sellecameron.com or www.sellecameron.blogspot.com Twitter: @SElleCameron; Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorS.ElleCameron?fref=nf