How A Refusal Can Be A Good Thing

By Lorène Belotti, Guest Blogger July 14, 2015

It’s been 6 months that I quit my job and am looking for THE new post. The one that will be the symbol of my carreer evolution, the reward for the courage it took me to leave my comfort zone.

Last week, I had a job interview in a great company. Everyone around me told me, “it’s so cool youget a job interview with them” and “waou, do you realize that setting foot in THIS company is huge” etc.

Indeed, this American company is very nice but the job was only for summer and notreally what I was looking for. I applied because one of friend works here and challenged me to give it a shot. I went to the job interview and it went well; I got the job.

When I heard the voice message delivering the good news, I immediately felt bad.

I decided my will to get something bigger was not just a fantasy and I was worthy of doing something “bigger.”

I didn’t want to do this. First, I didn’t like the task I had to do. Little boring administrative tasks and above all, excels data capture. I hate it. And, it was really underpaid. I have a Master's degree and 6 years of experience and they were going to pay me as if I was unqualified and didn’t have a diploma.

However, the HR manager was aware the job was under my skills and told me that my profile would fit a better job that could be available in the next months.

I faced a big dilemma: I really couldn’t imagine myself spending my day like a robot in front of excel tables without speaking with anyone but I was afraid my possible refusal would keep me away from a potentially better future with this company.

I tried to rationalize, telling myself that it was only 2 months, that it was a good business but my whole body was telling me NOT to accept. I had a stomachache, I anted to cry, I was angry… I felt so divided between my reason and my gut. I didn’t know what to do and I had to give my answer the next day.

I asked my family and friends for advice but at the end, I knew I was the only one who would deal with the consequences.


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I decided to listen to my gut and trust my abilities; I said no. The only reason I would have said yes was my worry of losing future opportunities. But I refused to be guided by my fear. I made the bravest choice I could and I felt relieved. I didn’t quit my former job to get a new one that is not better. That would have been against my resolutions and my aim. I decided my will to get something bigger was not just a fantasy and I was worthy of doing something “bigger.”

Facts proved me right as I received a call from the HR manager a few days ago. She wants me to meet the international team to offer me a better post. Actually, I guess my decision showed them my ambition and made them understand that I won’t accept just anything, despite their famous name. 

I earned respect and sharpened their interest for me thanks to this decision. I don’t know what happens next, but I now can say by experience that being at peace with yourself is your most important and most rewarding challenge.

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About Lorène

LORENE_BELOTTI_writer_bio.jpgLorene is a French observer and learner of life. She’s been working as a salesperson and a marketing assistant for four years to learn the ropes of the business world. She used to be a sports journalist while doing her Master’s degree and she loves writing and telling stories about great people too much not to go back to her first love soon. She lives in the French Alps, and loves to try to solve the world’s problems while having a great meal with her loved ones. She is passionate about foreign languages, self-development books, American TV shows, and people. Oh, and she’s a total nerd of Academic studies (when she’ll win the lottery, she’ll go to Harvard). 

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