By: Adrienne Credo, Regular Contributor
I think one of the worst things we can do to ourselves is to linger in self-pity and self-doubt for too long. By letting our minds wander into the darker depths of our mind, we make ourselves much too vulnerable, and we begin to breed negativity. I’m definitely not saying you can never be negative; believe me, I understand that we all have our ups and downs. What I am saying is to not let the negativity get to your head.
At least for me, the onset of self-pity and self-doubt usually comes after a failure. I received an email once that I allowed to seriously affect my demeanor throughout the day. I kept telling myself that I shouldn’t let this get to my head and that I shouldn’t wallow in this negativity. But by suppressing the negativity, I wasn’t allowing myself to feel the way I was feeling. It wasn’t healthy for me to bottle this up and say everything was fine when, in my heart, I knew it wasn’t. By suppressing the negativity, I only made my demeanor worse throughout the day, because I kept thinking that I shouldn’t be sad or mad. I needed to be happy and positive instead.
Once I realized how this email affected me, I allowed myself to feel the emotions rather than suppressing them and slapping a smile on my face. And I have to tell you, IT. FELT. GREAT. The raw emotions I allowed myself to feel lifted the weight on my heart, and I started feeling a lot better about my situation. It was easier to see the good things that came out of the situation after allowing myself be sad for a while. I realized how blessed I was with the opportunity to live out my passion, even if it was just for a little while, not to mention, how blessed I’ve been to meet some pretty awesome and driven people. My talent is enough. My passion is enough. I am enough. At the end of the day, that’s all we can ever hope for.
I think there’s a misconception amongst the masses that when we’re optimistic about our lives, we aren’t allowed to feel negative about anything because it goes against everything we’re told about optimism. However, in reality, it’s okay to feel the pain so long as we eventually see the brighter side of the situation. We should use every range of emotion in our arsenal to become the best versions of ourselves.
So the next time you find yourself in a not-so-ideal situation that really bums you out, let yourself feel that and let it fuel your positivity. You are enough, because you say so. Go out there with arms wide open and shout into the void “I AM READY!” because that’s all we can ever be.
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Adrienne is an undergraduate at University of California, Irvine studying Criminology, Law and Society with a minor in International Studies. She is also a passionate photographer (you can check out her work below!). She loves watching TV shows like Chicago PD (shout out to Sophia Bush!) and Law & Order: SVU with her roommates and creates funny videos with her friends. Check out some of her photographs on Flickr. http://www.flickr.com/photos/123906482@N03 Follow Adrienne on Twitter:http://twitter.com/ayjaycee and on Instagram: http://instagram.com/a.credo
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