19
Jul
What the Bleep?
by Ashley Thill
0 Comments | Posted by thatgirl in All Dolled Up, Living Life, Making Waves
I make it a point to watch award shows when they’re on TV. I tune in to the Emmys, Grammys, Golden Globes, People’s Choice, Oscars, you name it. So naturally, I watched this year’s MTV Movie Awards. I like to see this more casual show where stars aren’t so uptight and can be fun and silly. One thing that shocked me this year, however, was the amount of bleeping needed to cover the swearing. It was a lot even for MTV. None of it really added much to the show. Peter Facinelli, who stars in the Twilight movies, also made a point of mocking this during his cast’s acceptance speech for Best Movie. Although the speech was mocking the use of swear words, it actually rang true for how we have incorporated these words into our everyday vocabulary.
Why do we swear? There are lots of reasons really. The Association of Psychological Science published an article with this question in mind. The article stated that we swear in order to express our emotions. We swear when we’re happy, sad, angry, frustrated and more. It also is a way to relieve pent-up emotions. We feel a genuine release by throwing out a naughty word here and there.
Yet it seems we’ve grown so accustomed to these words that we just randomly interject them when they are not needed. Even for things that shouldn’t elicit a larger-than-life curse word, people seem to drop an F-bomb. Most of us usually just swear in social situations where we are comfortable with the people present, but if it becomes a bad habit, it could slip out in front of company we don’t want it to.
So how can we stop these nasty little words from intruding into our everyday conversation? First, we need to recognize in what situations we are saying these words and how often. Then comes the tough part of actually noticing and stopping ourselves. Some tricks to break bad habits include substituting the behavior for something else. We can train our brain to use new words in place of nasty ones. We also can learn to express and articulate our feelings in a more appropriate way.
It seems like it’s time to reverse our trend of cuss words in everyday conversation and return to more refined ways of speaking. Instead of using these words in every-other sentence, we should challenge ourselves to see how little we can use them. We can have meaningful conversations that allow us to express ourselves without all the four-letter interjections. Let’s leave the bleeps out.
18
Jul
Discount Plastic Surgery
by Danielle Francis
0 Comments | Posted by thatgirl in All Dolled Up, Mind and Money, Take Care
Thanks to advances in practices and instruments allowing patients greater safety and satisfaction, studies show that if money were no option more than 75% of mothers in the modern world would endure some form of plastic surgery to regain their youthfulness.
As plastic surgery garners more attention in society, the broader the demographic of people receiving the procedures. Unfortunately a very dangerous, yet popular trend has been popping up around the U.S.
For the first time in almost a decade the rate of plastic surgery operations is finally beginning to fall. High-cost surgeries with long recovery times usually make people hold out on those extra Botox injections, routine liposuction or that highly-coveted Brazilian butt lift. But where there’s a will there’s a way. Due to the recession, there is an increase of discount plastic surgery options emerging.
Plastic surgeons are finding their own marketing tactics around the recession because it’s a very competitive and lucrative business. Physicians are on the prowl trying to attract new customers since maintaining good relations with old clients just isn’t as profitable. This means many practices are slashing prices to create affordable fees for interested shoppers.
Big billboards have been plastered across major Florida and California highways tempting consumers with tag lines like: “8$ Botox” and “Buy one implant, get the other FREE.” These marketing schemes are advertising low-cost surgeries, but some studies indicate they may be guaranteeing low-budget outcomes as well.
Former Miss Argentina, Solange Magnano died late last year from complications during plastic surgery at the age of 38. The cause of her death was concluded as a pulmonary embolism. Too many unfortunate events like this are occurring and will continue to transpire as consumers remain ignorant about complications that can arise.
I’m not knocking discount plastic surgery or plastic surgery in general. There are sometimes when you are allowed to be a little cheap. You just have to play your cards right.
If you’re considering looking into discount plastic surgery, some rewarding options include:
- Seasonal surgeries. Most surgeons are busiest during the school year. If you think seasonally, you can book a procedure on an off time and get up to 25% off the physicians normal rate.
- Family and Friends packages. Most consultations run a two-for-one deal. Recovery rooms can be shared by two people, which can help shed a few dollars.
- Standby surgery. If you’re not in a rush or have a flexible schedule this may be the way to go. Adaptable patients may be given various dates to mark down so they can be contacted on a standby basis. Offices generally call seven to 10 days in advance so you don’t have to worry about any last-minute appointments.
Attitudes towards purchasing operations are opening up as more and more in-depth discussions with physicians about all the effects and risks are being taken into consideration. Nowadays, more people are learning from the mistakes of the past and getting better educated before they head into the operating room.
17
Jul
Freedom From Fear: Suu Kyi’s Fight for Democracy
by Genevieve Castonguay
0 Comments | Posted by thatgirl in Get Creative, Living Life, Making Waves, Organized Aid, That Girl
Over 400 people congregated for a ceremony marking the 65th birthday of Burmese opposition politician, Aung San Suu Kyi, at the home of a party member in Yangon on June 19. The pro-democracy leader could not attend her own event, however, as she has spent the last 15 out of 21 years under house arrest due to her fight for democracy in a military-controlled country. Suu Kyi’s journey has been tumultuous, but she still provides a platform of hope and revolution representing the voice of the people.
Suu Kyi was the only daughter of Aung San, known as the father of modern-day Burma who negotiated the nation’s independence from the United Kingdom in 1947. Aung San was assassinated that same year by rivals and Suu Kyi was raised by her mother. The political ties of her father transcended to her mother who became a prominent figure in the newly-formed Burmese government. Suu Kyi followed in her mother’s footsteps by first procuring a solid education with a degree in politics at Lady Shri Ram College in New Delhi followed by a B.A. in Philosophy, Politics, and Economics at St. Hugh’s College, Oxford. She worked at the United Nations in New York City and eventually married Dr. Michael Aris. Earning a Ph.D. in 1985 at the School of Oriental and African Studies, it wasn’t until after Suu Kyi returned to Burma to tend to her ill mother that her political journey truly began.
The leader of the Socialist ruling party stepped down from his position in office in 1988 leading to mass demonstrations for democracy which were aggressively suppressed. Suu Kyi made a move to publicly address half a million at a mass rally calling for a shift to a democratic government. That September, a new military junta assumed power but in the same month, the National League for Democracy was formed, with Suu Kyi holding position as general secretary.
Suu Kyi believed in non-violence and Buddhist concepts in producing results. The forces in power were threatened by her progressive movement and placed her under house arrest in 1989, giving her the option of freedom if she left the country. But Suu Kyi stayed with her nation. In 1990 when the military junta called a general election, an overwhelming 82% of the votes were for the National League for Democracy. Although the votes were nullified, Suu Kyi was awarded the Sakharov Prize for Freedom of Thought in 1990 and the Nobel Peace Prize in 1991.
Suu Kyi remains in Yangon and holds a significant presence in society. U.S. President Barack Obama and other political leaders continue to urge for her release. Until that day arrives, Suu Kyi will patiently pursue her right for democracy and live by the famous words she uttered during her “Freedom from Fear” speech: “It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.”
Where has the women’s movement gone? Where are our leaders, speaking on our behalf, fighting for us around the world? Because despite the tremendous progress our fore-mothers made for us and the incredible opportunities I’ve been presented with, I look around and the myths of marching women, of sisterhood and a unified voice have seemingly evaporated. I’m left wanting to believe in the dream of women standing on the same team, of holding each other and the world accountable to the ways in which we are treated and I am disenchanted with the reality.
But rather than live off the laurels of our mothers and our grandmothers, it’s our turn to take the torch and play our part in history. I’m talking to you too MEN. We’ve never been presented with such an opportunity, but more importantly, a responsibility to stand up and blow the whistle. One of the most unique distinctions (and criticisms) to our generation is our sense of entitlement, our belief that we can actually make a difference in the world and the bravado and audacity in thinking that we can and will be the resounding answer to our world’s cry for help.
In saying that, the girls I work with were talking about what it would really take to ignite THE 21st century, women’s movement. Not in theory, not in a sweet, kumbaya kind of way, but how do we ignite a paradigm shifting revolution? How do we rebrand a feminist movement to speak to our generation, to be sexy and beautiful, intelligent and savvy? In a world where advertising companies spoon feed us opinions, assign identities, create entire paradigms and belief systems, how can we utilize the same powerful mechanism, to inspire an entire generation and candidly tell OUR story?
So we surveyed, we held focus groups and work shops to find out what YOU think. We presented the tenants of the feminist movement and asked girls to check the ones they to which they agreed. Nine out of ten girls agreed with all the tenants, then we revealed the last question of whether they considered themselves to be “feminists.” Unfortunately, nine out of ten girls answered with a resounding NO! So we were presented with the dilemma, would we rather take the necessary time to deconstruct the negative connotations associated with the word, “feminism” or potentially create a new movement with a name and a new brand? We chose the latter. We created BELLISM. Because the reality is our fight has changed, and we found the two most predominant challenges facing our generation were 1. An obnoxiously narrow definition of “beauty” that leaves us all feeling chronically fat and hideous 2. How catty and mean women are to one another and more importantly, themselves. Can I hear an amen?
While there are significant strides left in the original tenants and goals of the feminist movement, we just need a new package, a new battle cry and a reason to get up and march together again. The older I get the more I recognize how important my girl friends are to me and how much our world needs female leaders injecting their compassion into major decision making around the world. I read about my sisters over seas who’s rights are being taken away, who live in inhumane, unacceptable circumstances of abuse, negligence, and poverty. Depending on your zip code, it’s like winning the baby lottery. I won and the reality is if you’re reading this from within the US and on a computer (much less your phone), that already puts you in the top 3% of the world, so you too won the lottery.
My dad used to say that with great opportunity comes great responsibility. We can do incredible things individually, but together we can ACTUALLY change the world. If there were a bell tower I could ring, a siren I could sound, it would be now. Because I think that we have reached a critical point in history and we are losing our voice and this world is proving to be a terrifying place when women become marginalized, objectified and under-valued.
Bellism is but my suggestion; it’s just a word. A word I actually came up with in grad school when I was writing a term paper on a “bad ass, make-believe, chick revolution.” But a word is all we really need. We need a way to identify ourselves, something to stand behind and believe in again. I’m a Bellist, who is determined to redefine our society’s narrow definition of beauty, to celebrate the intangibles and the warehouse of real beauty stored deep withint a woman’s heart. We are on a mission to remind women everywhere that we are in fact on the SAME team and that we can do endlessly more when we collaborate as opposed to compete. We’re on a mission to highlight incredible men who support, love and revere women to jump on board as well.
I asked my dad once if he thought I would have hidden Jewish people during WW2 even though I wasn’t Jewish, if I would have fought for African Americans slaves during the Civil war even though I wasn’t black, if I would have stuck my neck out for someone even when the threat wasn’t facing me personally. He said, “of course you would have, because I raised a daughter who’d fight for those who had no fight left in them, who’d lend their voice to those who’s voice had been taken away and to stand for those who could not longer stand alone.” But the reality, is that the opportunity is presenting itself right now and given the chance to fight for young women around the world, to be a leader for girls now, and to create a revolution, that’s what’s being presented now. So with that, I can’t begin to do it alone. I need you, whoever you are and however you stumbled upon this blog, I’m speaking to you this very second. Join me, stand with me, believe in this, and help us reignite not just any, but OUR movement. The movement of the 21st century Bellists who stood should to shoulder and said, we’re going to make this world better, one girl at a time.
I have a feeling this is just but the beginning and what an adventure awaits us… let the history books make room for a bunch of misfit, Bellists with a myriad of lenses, but one crystal clear vision… to be the generation who fought for something bigger in life than themselves and left this world better than when they found it.
… you down?
16
Jul
Staying Safe Far From Home
by Ashley Thill
0 Comments | Posted by thatgirl in Living Life, Take Care
The recent arrest of Joran van der Sloot in the murder case of a young Peruvian woman opens up another case, one that hits very close to home. Five years ago, Natalee Holloway was vacationing with her senior class in Aruba. She disappeared after last being seen with van der Sloot at a nightclub. Holloway is still missing and her body has yet to be recovered. Van der Sloot is the prime suspect in the case, but they haven’t been able to pin him with her disappearance.
The case of Natalee Holloway is not the only one where women traveling abroad have disappeared. Another young woman, Amy Bradley, disappeared while on a cruise with her family in the Caribbean in 1998 and has never been found. She was last seen with a musician from the ship’s band. Aubrey Sacco, a woman from Colorado, disappeared recently when she was last reported hiking alone in Nepal.
Travelers abroad, especially young women, still need to be cautious when traveling outside the country. Here are some tips, trick and words of advice about how to stay safe while still having fun:
- Know the culture of the place you’re visiting. Our culture and customs aren’t the same as everywhere else. Travelers should learn how their actions will be interpreted in other places. Many people caution that in most cases women should err on the more conservative side so as not to offend or attract unwanted attention.
- Register with the State Department and U.S. consulate. Tell them where you plan to stay and for how long.
- Travel with a group, especially at night. This seems like a no-brainer, but the reports we hear of women who have disappeared are women who were alone. Stick with a group and don’t wander off.
Here are some more unusual tips:
- Buy a ring and wear it like a wedding ring. In many countries, especially developing ones, if a woman has on a wedding ring she is seen as another man’s property and less likely to be harassed.
- Go for smaller hotels. In mega resorts, it’s harder to keep track of guests. In a smaller hotel setting, staff is able to see the comings and goings of guest more easily.
- Book hotels with electronic keys. Electronic keys are easier to change, and many hotels change them with each guest turnover. But hotels with traditional keys can’t be changed as quickly and many show the room number.
- Don’t put the maid service card on your door. This is a signal to every person who goes by that you are not in your room and makes it an easy target for someone to break in.
We should all be able to enjoy the great places and experiences the world has to offer. But we can still make decisions that keep us safe. Because being safe doesn’t mean sacrificing fun.
My second and last road trip of the summer is finally over. It’s a bittersweet farewell to one of the most time-consuming yet growth-oriented experiences of my life. This year I was lucky enough to take my first trek over to the infamous golden coast with friends instead of family. I’ve done the whole family road trip way too many times, and for some reason the years go by but people barely change.
With that knowledge learned and ingrained, my two best allies and I hopped into a baby blue Jetta and drove almost 4,000 miles from Houston to Santa Rosa, CA, the largest city right smack in the middle of wine country, for the 32nd annual Harmony Festival celebration.
None of us had ever heard of, let alone attended Harmony Fest before this instance. I had actually come across the festival’s Web site in late December last year after a very interesting night out. Once I read about the festival’s history and its intention, I was hooked.
It all started in 1978 when college student Debra Giusti, the accredited founder of Harmony Festival, and a group of dedicated young community activists in Sonoma County had an idea. The Sonoma State classmen wanted to figure out a way to merge a music festival with an educational exhibition that had been flooding through the university at that time. The exhibition featured pioneering everyday life options.
The 500+ Sonoma Staters believed the county fair would embrace the ideas that were generally going on at the time. Thus it began a new counter-culture movement. To this day, the core of Harmony Fest lies in its distinct remembrance of the 60’s movement that it owes its existence.
Although it started in the humble hearts of college kids, today’s Harmony Festival is just as diverse as ever — and bigger. With funky and eclectic music lineups, hundreds of local and national vendors, wisdom speakers and more, guests can get a taste of the “other side” without actually having to delve in all the way.
I watched stages develop crowds as some of the world’s most amazing minds spoke of their ideas on the evolution of our culture and happenings, the innovation planetary consciousness, and personal spiritual arousal. Endless tables featuring holistic health alternatives, conservationism, progressive politics, women’s rights, contemporary technologies, peace and the global arts set the scene.
This trip and festival were truly some of the most eye-opening and friendly experiences I have ever been lucky enough to have. Three days of being surrounded by real-life beatniks, concerts, camping and motivational speakers guarantees you just can’t leave the same.
If you’re down with the hippies and tree huggers then there’s no doubt you’ll enjoy embracing the harmony.
14
Jul
Josh Dueck’s Silver Lining
by Genevieve Castonguay
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“The only difference between the possible and the impossible is one’s attitude.” – Josh Dueck
It was a picturesque day in March 2004 on the snowy mountains of British Columbia. Accustomed to the slopes since growing up in Kimberly, British Columbia, Josh Dueck prepared for a run down a hill in Vernon as head coach of the Silver Star Freestyle Ski Club. His passion and love of the sport would never deter him from training students for the 2004 Canadian junior nationals. It was only after overshooting the landing hill and catapulting over 100 vertical feet to the ground, where his life would take a new direction. Breaking his back and severing his spine, 23-year-old Josh Dueck was paralyzed from the waist down.
“Intuition said stop, but my ego said go,” he remembered. Having learned to ski at 13 and developed an affinity for being on the hill and one day representing Canada in the Olympics, Dueck’s dreams seemed to be understandably shattered after his accident. But surprisingly, it was his ER doctor that provided him with the inspiration to ensure his disability was not a liability.
“You’re going to rock the world in a wheelchair and be back on the mountain riding a sit ski before you know it,” the doctor stated. Dueck or “Duey” (as friends call him) claimed that moment was a “profound experience” and it gave him a “sense of direction to focus on my abilities and not [my] disability.”
By the following winter, Dueck was back on the hill as a spectator watching the sport he loved. He became introduced to the sit ski and worked diligently to cut down his rehabilitation and recovery time by two-thirds. By 2009, Dueck managed to not only get back in the sport he flourished in, but win four consecutive Canadian Championships and was crowned the 2009 IPC World Downhill Champion and Canadian Champion to boot.
From his accomplishments, Dueck earned the right to race with the 2010 Canadian Para-Alpine Skiing Team for the Paralympics held in Vancouver. The slopes he had grown up and competed on were now his to own. He went away from the games with a silver medal in the men’s sitting category on the slalom.
Having met Dueck at a business luncheon at CFB Petawawa in Ontario, his story really hits hard when it comes from his lips. He’s captivating but remarkably humble and declared that his story of sacrifice is minute compared to what others have to endure (referring to a presentation about Canadian Forces aiding in Haiti). I even had the honor of holding his Paralympic silver medal.
When he’s not racing down the slope, you can find Dueck swimming, bike riding, kayaking, traveling or relaxing with his wife. He’s an active advocate and motivational speaker for overcoming obstacles and carries with him a message of hope. “I have learned through my experiences that anything is possible if you are willing to work for it!”
When I think of charm and etiquette classes, a scene from days gone by comes to mind. Young women being taught to be “proper” young ladies. They should be beautiful, know how to hold conversation, decipher which fork to use or glass to drink from and should be able to promenade in a circle with a book poised on their heads. In recent years, etiquette classes have been springing back up in after-school programs and classes during the day for elementary and high school kids. But these classes are in response to what our society seems to be lacking.
Recently at Llandovery College in Carmarthenshire, England, etiquette classes have been established to “put old-fashioned manners into a modern context.” Classes may be offered to children as young as the age of three. These classes aren’t just a European ideal. Schools in the U.S. are also popping up. Although some people argue that classes like these are outdated, they actually may be making up for lost manners in changing times.
A fifth-grade teacher in Georgia will introduce etiquette classes for her students because she has seen a difference in this area since she began her teaching career over 20 years ago.
Renni Wooden said in an interview in May that children “need to know there have to be limits.” She blamed the rise of technology and less social interaction as well as the loss of traditional family values for this lack of social skill and finesse in younger generations.
She added, “People haven’t caught up yet. They have become rude, impolite. Where has the empathy gone?”
Schools in other parts of the country also have taken up the call to offer classes for students who have grown up in this era. At a school in Duxbury, MA, students learn proper manners, like dinner table etiquette and social communication. Teenage students also have the opportunity to hone in on their interview skills. Some classes are even adapting to the modern day by including in their communication education how to write a polite e-mail, cell phone etiquette and so on. There also are portions of classes that focus on how to behave in retail stores and restaurants, even fast food chains.
The classes are not the finishing schools of days gone by where it was only important for young women to learn social graces. Young boys and girls are enrolled in even numbers.
A student’s education today focuses hard on making the A grade, having stellar ACT scores and taking AP classes. But along the way, we may have lost the basic skills we need to be prepared for the real world. That A in calculus may not mean so much in a job interview as the skill to communicate effectively and be personable. Etiquette classes may be the re-education that many of us need.
The only thing I think I’ve ever learned about Iceland has come from the second Mighty Ducks movie. You know the old rhyme, “Greenland is full of ice, and Iceland is very nice?” OK maybe not, but this time Iceland is very, very nice.
On June 2, the Icelandic parliamentarians known as the ancient Althing, approved several laws intending to expand the legal rights of gays and lesbians in Iceland.
Later on June 11, Iceland’s general assembly actually voted to legalize same-sex marriage. This vote makes Iceland the 9th country in the world to do so.
Iceland has always been quite advanced on the gay rights front, but in the past few years it had begun to lag behind. In 1996, the government passed an interesting law granting homosexuals the same cohabitation rights as their straight counterparts. The law was progressive, but homosexuals were still not being treated equal. When it came time to form family units, many homosexual couples were unable because of little government recognition.
So the nation decided to go the easy route (as the U.S. should, in my opinion) by determining the word marriage was the fundamental issue, not homosexuality disgracing the sanctity of matrimony.
The passing of this law to redefine the word marriage is crucial. The reorder of the term marriage into union ensures that partnerships can be between two individuals of any sex.
The law also grants rights to cohabitants, those seeking adoption, and those in need of assisted pregnancies. This is not only a progressive step for lesbians and gays, but for families as well.
One of the most inspiring aspects of the law’s passing is that not one member of parliament voted against the bill, and public opinion polls propose that the bill is quite popular among citizens.
Gay bashing has become a thing of the past. The children of gays and lesbians now enjoy full social security and problems with workplace harassment have become rare.
Showing their support and encouragement of human rights and equality for all, gays, lesbians and everyone in-between take to the streets in Reykjavik, Iceland’s capital, to celebrate a Gay Pride Parade which draws nearly 40,000 people. That’s a bursting third of the total population of the Icelandic metropolis. The parade takes place on the second weekend of August each year. Ah, the sweet reminder of tolerance.
The official celebration of the bill’s passing took place in Reykjavik on June 27.
11
Jul
The Science of Color
by Genevieve Castonguay
0 Comments | Posted by thatgirl in Uncategorized
If my mood ring turns bright red, does that mean I’m in love? Mood rings use a thermochromic element that works in response to body temperature. Then according to the given color, it reflects the emotion the wearer is feeling at any present time. While mood rings are plain fun, there is in fact a science behind colors. They can reveal a lot more about a person than you might have guessed.
Different colors reflect everything from personality types, the best choices for bridesmaids dresses, how to make an office serene, and even how to help cut back on eating in the kitchen. This is not a new practice, and a simple Google search on which colors represent personality traits will come up with a plethora of hits.
A theory behind the science of color is that each color has a specific distinctive wavelength or frequency. The human body has a certain response to each frequency, therefore to each color, and the human mind emits frequencies of its own. This interaction affects emotions, ideas, and behaviors. To prove this theory, Dr. Max Lüscher invented a psychological color test that went off the notion that sensory perception of color is objective by all, but color preferences are subjective therefore one could measure the subjective states from the objective test colors. He believed that colors were selected in an unconscious manner and reveal the true personality of a person, not how they perceive themselves or how they think others perceive them.
Artists see the value and significance behind colors. Each paint color denotes a different emotion and could change the meaning behind the painting. The same philosophy applies to the colors we choose to paint the walls of our house. They can create the feeling of warmth, spaciousness, tranquility, passion, and more.
Generally, warm tones range from red, orange and yellow while the cool tones are blue, violet and green. Red symbolizes love, passion, action, confidence, courage, energy and vitality. Red is a great color for a night on the town since it attracts attention. But it also stimulates hunger for junk food, so be cautious if you’re on a diet. Purple symbolizes royalty, mystery, good judgment, imagination, inspiration, magic and purposefulness. Since it’s a combination of red and blue, it’s used to calm or to energize from depression. If you are having trouble making a decision, purple stimulates intuition. Black, while not technically a color, stands for power, authority and responsibility. For those looking for a promotion, wearing black could be just the ticket.
At the end of the day, don’t be overly concerned with which color will represent you in which light. Choose what comes naturally to you, and your personality will shine through no matter if the garment is blue or lime green. However, it’s still fascinating to uncover the truth behind the science of color. And if you wish to find out what your choices say about you, check out various Lüscher tests online!
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