Overcoming Fear of the Gym

By: Kaycee Wolf, Guest Blogger August 30, 2015 

I remember a time when I was too embarrassed to show my face at a gym or be seen in public working out. I thought that I had to be more in shape before actually stepping foot into a gym. How ridiculous that sounds to me now. When I actually would show my face at the gym, I imagined everyone snickering at me behind my back and wondering why the fat girl was even bothering. 

The truth was that I had no faith in myself so why should anyone else. I couldn’t imagine anyone else believing that I could be athletic and healthy because I didn’t believe it.

Unfortunately, I don’t remember the magic moment when I became less scared. I guess I don’t remember because it didn’t happen overnight. I didn’t wake up one morning no longer afraid or insecure. Baby steps. 

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I started out going to the gym with a friend. I definitely couldn’t walk in there alone! The more I went with my friend, the more comfortable I became. I had the cardio part down. I actually started going and using the elliptical machine on my own. I realized that people were more focused on their own workout or on the large TVs to really pay any attention to me. I became less self-conscious little by little. I spent years doing cardio with no strength training. Cardio was my exercise security blanket. It was safe. I was afraid of strength training. I was afraid that I would embarrass myself. 

At the beginning of this year, I made a vision board. One of the goals on my vision board is to develop a “fit girl” attitude. It took years to realize that I could be a fit girl. Fit comes in all shapes and sizes. I’m 5’8” and a size 18. I’m not the normal fit girl that you typically see in magazines and ads. I don’t have a six-pack, and I jiggle pretty much everywhere. However, I realized that I am a strong girl. 

Fit is an attitude. It’s all about the confidence and self-belief.

I did a lot of research on a weight-routine to help ease my fear of strength training. Once completing the online research, I grabbed a gym buddy and we started lifting weights in March. For someone who was once so afraid, I’m pretty proud of where I am now. I currently squat 95 pounds, deadlift 95 pounds, row 60 pounds, bench press 65 pounds, and overhead press 50 pounds.

I’m no longer afraid of looking stupid. I walk into a mostly-male dominated weight room and get it done because I realized something: fit is an attitude. It’s all about the confidence and self-belief.     

Don’t be afraid to try something new. If you feel intimidated by a gym, it really does help to grab a supportive friend. I guarantee that you can find at least one person who would love to work out with you. Or start out working out at home and build comfort in an exercise routine. Most of the people in the gym are there to accomplish a lot of the same goals you are.

Figure out what is best for you and don’t worry about what routine anyone else is doing. Getting fit isn’t a competition. Compete with yourself and get stronger each day. I know that you can do it.

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About Kaycee

KAYCEE_WOLF_writer_bio.jpgKaycee is a novice blogger living in Central Arkansas. She is a lover of music, writing, and a comfortable pair of yoga pants. Although an attorney by day, her recent quest for health and positive self-image started her blog adventures at http://www.voluptuousmisadventures.com.


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  • commented 2015-09-14 07:26:49 -0700
    Carla, that’s great! I think sometimes that the hardest part can be knowing where or how to get started. I’m glad that you put your mind to do it and you did. That’s fierce! And I’m jealous of your hula hoop skills. I still haven’t been able to master that.
  • commented 2015-09-12 22:56:16 -0700
    My Journey this year has been miraculous. I tried to go to the gym and paid my membership for 12 years I would pull into parking lot and see all the cars and just panic .To be fair for many of those years I had serious heart issues but over 3 years ago I finally got a good repair but by then I had learned helplessness, One day I just made the decision to get a trainer go slow and get healthy It wasn’t easy At first I only walked 3 minutes on treadmill I weighed 240 at 5’5’’ so I had some work to do. my trainer really got me over my fear and introduced me to people who had overcame so much more than I am. I am in what I call phase two I am under 200 and now some real world must be done again I found out last week I can hula hoop.Not bad for 60. I hope everyone can find that courage to walk in one day before you know it you are a 6 day a week gym rat and it feels wonderful. Carla
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