By: Kate Krassowski, Guest Blogger
“Tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.”
I never knew how afraid I was to open my heart up to the world and to change. I have spent so much time resisting the process of getting to know myself. There’s power in knowing who you are and more importantly in loving who you are. Recently, I spent time with women who have changed my life forever and who have taught me one of the most valuable lessons I could have learned: that it’s okay not to be okay, and it’s crucial to spend time loving and forgiving yourself.
No one will ever be there for you the way you can be there for yourself. I’ve learned how important it is to truly know myself. Allowing your heart to change and to be vulnerable is one of the greatest gifts. I’ve had this indestructible wall up around my heart praying that no one, including myself, would be able to get inside. By doing this, anger became my number one reflex to everything and that venom took over my life. I could hear people getting bored with me talking about the same things in my life over and over again that are horrible. I was even bored hearing about it. There was a point where I had to take responsibility for not doing everything I could to pull myself out of the situation. When something in your life is taking over and weighing you down, you have three options: to learn to accept it, to change it, or to leave it. All of those are of your own power. It’s healthy to vent sometimes, but when you’re defined by the complaints and the negativity that you release onto others you need to make the change.
There’s also a fear and uncertainty that goes along with the changing your way of life. What if I fail? What if this isn’t the right path for me? When these questions come up, it’s important to remember that YOU are unstoppable. If an idea fails (which honestly there is a certain success in failure because you were brave enough to try) you will learn from it. Mistakes are there to teach us and to help us grow. Sometimes it takes a friend telling you the ugly truth to push you along to something greater.
My hope is that every girl has a friend who will hold them when they need it and push them when necessary. I also hope that as women we are comfortable enough with ourselves to open our hearts, let others in, and not be afraid about what comes after. Living life this way can change the world. Having confidence and self-love will spread like wildfire and together, the mirror, our hearts, and the future will no longer be something to be afraid of. Live fearlessly ladies, there’s power there.
Have you felt resistant to changing something about yourself? Maybe it's a bad habit, maybe it's a tweak in your thinking, or maybe it's trusting someone else with letting see the real you. Make a plan to take steps toward that change and tell us about it here!
She moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.
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