By Lorène Belotti, Guest Blogger
MOTIVATION. In a society where we have to fit into very precise molds, we always feel the need to be motivated. We always want to be thinner, stronger, smarter and fitter and we do our best to reach our goals but how do we go about it? From what do we draw this motivation?
I guess we feel reassured by being active, like we’re taking control of our bodies or our lifestyles. It calms our fear of the unknown and the uncontrolled.
To stay motivated, we search for inspiration everywhere, often in role models. Nowadays, celebrities are the new gods, and people, especially girls, relate a lot to them. Is it really positive? How do you deal with the image and information media and role-models are giving to you?
In motivation, there are two types of people. One needs to beat themselves up to get motivated and the other needs to be talked to lovingly, by themselves and by others.
As a former sports journalist, I remember an interview with a basketball team captain who explained that she understood she had to adjust her speeches according to her audience. Some of her teammates were hurt and drew into themselves if she spoke harshly to them, while it was exactly what some others needed.
Everyday, we’re swamped by pictures of celebrities showing us their gym class, their bikini body(complete with abs of course) only 2 months after giving birth to their child, the vegan food they happily eat… The problem is they make us believe it’s easy and makes us want to do the same to become just like them.
Either your ego is touched and you think “if she can do that, I can” or you’re thinking “I’m not strong enough to make it.” In both ways, you’ll compare yourself. Here is my advice to find the help and motivation you need without tearing yourself down:
1) You need a role-model? Fine, choose wisely and find a person who cheers you up instead of making you doubt yourself even more. You need only one thing: positivity.
2) Be realistic: sorry but you will never be the spitting of Natalie Portman and you know what? It’s fine. It’s actually great. You’ll be you instead and it’s way better!
3) Accept yourself before trying to think, to act, and to look like someone else. To improve the person you are and to grow, you need to know yourself and to love the person you already are. If you don’t, you’ll always be disappointed, no matter how much progress you do because you’ll be blinded by your obsession to be perfectly true to your unattainable fantasy.
4) Step back and rationalize. What you see in the media, it’s fake. Communication is powerful and can make you think you’re not worthy. Let me tell you this: YOU are powerful. Just don’t believe them. Listen to yourself instead.
5) Find balance, run away from extreme situations, and say Amen to Voltaire’s words, “Best is the enemy of the good.”
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Lorene is a French observer and learner of life. She’s been working as a salesperson and a marketing assistant for four years to learn the ropes of the business world. She used to be a sports journalist while doing her Master’s degree and she loves writing and telling stories about great people too much not to go back to her first love soon. She lives in the French Alps, and loves to try to solve the world’s problems while having a great meal with her loved ones. She is passionate about foreign languages, self-development books, American TV shows, and people. Oh, and she’s a total nerd of Academic studies (when she’ll win the lottery, she’ll go to Harvard).