By: Victoria Santoro, Guest Blogger
Over a late breakfast one morning, my managing partner proactively addressed with me the issue of time management. He knows very much how I enjoy writing, and seemed to sense (from my perspective) that I was losing room in my life for some of the things I love the most, including writing. This is an easy slide to tumble down, I can attest to that fact. No matter where we are in our lives, the calls from all directions pull us apart. My mom refers to this as “burning the candle at all ends.”
And then you take a step back and think to yourself, “but what do I want?” Most often, that question gets lost in the wind and we remain carried along the current of being busy. But if you don’t stop, breathe, and get to work making room for the life you want, no one else is going to do it for you. Aggressively search down that life. Say no to more people, no to projects you don’t love. Live life like a laser--focused on passion and love. Burning those things to the ground and letting the rest smolder in the periphery.
Whatever you decide you want to make room for--school, career, love, children, even learning to cook--let it be whatever you really want it to be. Turn away from the judgments of others, lean into those who support you, and then you can watch the way your life fills up with what you enjoy the most. And although it doesn’t necessarily mean every single day will be easy (far from it), you’ll still live with purpose. With purpose, you know every day is moving you in the right direction. Even if it’s hard.
Making room in your life is like cleaning up your house. Sometimes annoying, sometimes really difficult, it’s never the thing you want to do first, because so many other things seem easier. But then you finish the task and you’re proud of the results.
Invest in making room in your life. Clean up your mind and your heart, let the sunlight flood in. Build the life that you want and understand your hands will get a little dirty on the way. But the payoff will be worth it. Once there’s enough room, all the things you want will have their place.
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Victoria Santoro is a trial attorney who practices law in Boston. She is also a teacher, speaker, and writer, maintaining her personal blog The Limber Lawyer, and contributing to various legal publications. Victoria is passionate about helping young girls and women not only succeed but also find contentment and purpose. In her free time, she can often be found training or competing for half-marathons and triathlons.