By: Claire Cook, Regular Contributor
There's a new app in town and she's mean.
For those not yet familiar with it, the Lulu App, which launched earlier this year, allows girls to rate their ex boyfriends anonymously on humor, career, kissing, sex, etc. You can even search for and characterize men by hashtags (ex.: #OpensDoors, #RyGosLookAlike, #JeansAreSkinnierThanMine, etc.). Men cannot download the app, which, in theory, makes it a safe zone for women to rate men unless a man views his profile from a trusted female’s account.
I think the app is fun and funny on superficial level. When I introduce new girlfriends to the app, the reaction is always one of shock and excitement followed by looking up exes and mutual guy friends on the app. However, I’m concerned with Lulu because of the Karma from using it: You reap what you sow. Have I read comments about men that I’ve dated and/or want to date? Yes. They’re funny and sometimes enlightening. Have I rated anyone? No, because I would never want to be rated.
What’s going to happen when, inevitably, the male response to Lulu is launched? How many women do we know whose spirits have been crushed when they’ve read or heard gossip about themselves? Too many. When the tables are turned, I don’t think women using Lulu are going to enjoy it anymore.
We need to stop using social media and apps like Lulu to trash talk people. Freedom of speech is an incredible right, but its purpose was never to verbally harm others. The male/female dynamic is complicated enough as it is. Let’s help bring each other up, rather than down. Relationships are about accepting and embracing another person for his or her flaws, and this app teaches us to do the opposite. Lulu, you’ve been deleted from my iPhone.
About Claire: Claire “Bear” Cook is a regular contributor to I Am That Girl who spends her days working in marketing at a multimedia company in Los Angeles. Having lived in New York City for 3 years and grown up on the East Coast, she moved to LA in 2013 on a leap of faith to build her career and broaden her perspective. Claire is passionate about travel, running, music, karaoke, walruses & wine and enjoys spending her free time with free-thinking, creative & positive people.