By: Susannah Hutcheson, Regular Contributor
We are so often exposed to the idea that we must be coupled up in some way- you must have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or a person to hang out with at all times. We live in a world where we are constantly plugged in to other people: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, email, text message, Skype. The list goes on and on, and the meaningless interactions continue. We rarely discuss the importance of alone time, and the benefits we can reap from it. Instead, we are told on every magazine cover to “Find Our Perfect Match” and “Don’t Be Forever Alone.” The rest of the world fails to tell you that you can’t possibly be truly happy with someone else if you aren’t truly at peace with yourself.
There are three valuable things that you can only learn from spending quality time with yourself.
You learn what you like. You learn what tea you like, your favorite bands, and your insecurities. There is much to be said for the realizations you come to when you are thinking for yourself. When you constantly surround yourself with other people, you aren’t taking the time to get to know you for you.
You get to think for yourself, without the outside influences you often don’t realize are there. Lace up your tennis shoes, stick in some ear buds, and go for a run or a walk. If you get tired, just find a bench somewhere and sit there with your thoughts. Don’t let social media interfere with your mindset- just sit there and think about things. You’ll be amazed at what you come up with.
You realize that you don’t need another person to make you happy. When you are constantly around people, it’s easy to believe that you always need them around you to complete you. Spend time by yourself. Download a new playlist, catch up on your TiVo, take a drive- but don’t hang out with anyone else but yourself. Just stay in your own company for just a few hours, and let the self-realizations begin to roll in.
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Susannah is a Journalism major, passionate about social justice and Jesus Christ. She loves cold weather, triple-shot lattes, and macaroni and cheese. When she’s not writing papers or baking cookies, you can find her Googling random things on the Internet or watching large amounts of reality television. You can read her ramblings at girlmeetstruth.com, or look at pictures of her coffee on Instagram: @susannah.hutcheson.
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