Love What You Got

By: S. Elle Cameron, Guest Blogger

“Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.”- Meghan Trainor

We’re living in a Photoshopped, “you have to look this way to be attractive,” shallow society. You would think by the year 2014 everyone would be accepted no matter what race, size, gender, class, or sexual orientation someone is identified as but it’s sad to say we’re moving backwards. Women are fighting for rights they shouldn’t have to fight for and we’re still being rated based on our physical attributes.

It’s fine to care about what you look like and to want to look your best. I’d be lying if I said looks shouldn’t matter to any of us because it does. The problem is we let our looks define who we are and who we should date. In recent times, female weight issues have taken the forefront when it comes to things women care about. You would think it would be women gaining equality in the workforce and these hideous decisions about employers denying birth control coverage under insurance but once again the physical features of a woman reaches the top spot.

When are we going to realize that our dress size shouldn’t define us? I’m not saying I’m perfect because weight is something I struggle with myself. When I was sixteen I thought I was too skinny and now that I’m 23 I want to drop a few pounds. What I realized is that during both ages I felt the way I did because of what society advertised.


I’m sure many of you can agree with me that Photoshop has turned our society into an evil, judgmental predator that shames any female who is bigger than a size two. Now, there’s nothing wrong with being a size two or even smaller (especially if it’s your natural body structure) but there’s also nothing wrong with being a size ten. The average woman in this country is about a size twelve to fourteen! This further proves that what is displayed in the media is a twisted version of what society thinks is right.

With recent advocates for fuller figured women like Meghan Trainor, Nicki Minaj, Jennifer Lopez, and Iggy Azalea, I find it refreshing to see women embracing their curvaceous figures. One thing we can learn from them is that a little bit of booty (or a lot) never hurt anybody!

It doesn’t matter if you’re a size zero or a size fourteen; you’re beautiful and perfectly made just the way you are. You don’t have to lose or gain weight because society says you should. You don’t have to be Nicki Minaj or Cara Delevingne to be found attractive. It sounds cliché but the real beauty you possess comes from within. There are women of all shapes and sizes perfectly happy with themselves (and their partners are even happier) and we all should strive to be more like them. Embrace yourself no matter what the scale says because the scale can’t tell you if you measure up or not. Only you can do that! Love yourself and be proud of your body BE THAT GIRL so others will feel encouraged to do the same!

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What's the best way to change the conversation about beauty and beauty standards? TO GET TALKING!

  • Your voice is pure power. Get educated about the trends and practices of the beauty industry, don't like what you see? Write a blog, start a discussion on FB, get your girls together and set aside time for some healthy conversation about these issues. Change starts with YOU!

About S. Elle

elle.jpgS. Elle Cameron is the 22 year old author of the Young Adult novel, A Tragic Heart. Music and personal experiences inspire her to write on a daily basis. To learn more, visit her at or Twitter: @SElleCameron. Facebook:




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  • commented 2014-09-12 20:31:56 -0700
    Who wants a beauty bigot for a bf/gf/spouse anyways? If someone rejects you because of looks, tell the beauty bigot, “Good riddance! I want someone who loves me no matter what form I take!”

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