By: Caitlin Cheevers, Guest Blogger
I’m a very competitive person.
No matter what I’m doing, I work better when I’m competing against another person. While this may be good in school and at work, it can be really harmful socially.
Where does this habit come from?
We are constantly pinned against each other in the media.
Who wore it better? Cast your vote!
Which one of these two attractive women will win the love of this equally attractive man?
When we see things like this every day, it’s not so farfetched to believe that women are constantly competing with each other.
We have to look our best every time we go out with friends.
We have to stand out at work, so we can’t share our ideas with people who might steal them.
We have to work out past our limits at the gym so we don’t look weak.
We have to volunteer for every school event so we don’t look like we don’t love our children.
What if instead of tearing each other apart in the climb to the top, we worked together, lifting up and supporting each other along the way?
After all, if I’m constantly competing against my friends, can we truly trust each other?
My friend Angela and I are both bloggers, and we’re both naturally competitive people. However, rather than competing against each other for page views, we are working as consultants for the other person.
Angela has written and will continue to write guest posts for my blog, and I read and link to her blog regularly. We give each other advice on topics, design, and organization.
Because honestly, people can read both of our blogs; just because someone reads mine doesn’t mean they can’t read Angela’s, and vice versa.
At the same time, though, we can’t start thinking that it’s the two of us vs. the rest of the blogging industry.
It should never by us vs. them.
So how do we quiet our competitive sides while we work together?
Part of it comes naturally thanks to how well we work together. We have similar goals and ideals, which makes the entire process easier.
Despite this, I catch myself wanting to compete. So the best thing I can do is be mindful and realize when my competitive side starts to rear its ugly head.
It’s a difficult habit to snap out of, but the more I notice it, the more I remind myself to collaborate rather than compete. As I continue to remind myself, the bad habit starts to be replaced with the better one.
Caitlin's perspective is so great! Where do you find yourself competing with friends or people close to you, even when you know it's not healthy? How can you work to change some of that behavior so that everyone wins?
Caitlin Cheevers is the entire marketing department at an office technology dealer in her hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan. In her free time, she writes, designs, and publishes her own blog, www.andpossiblydinosaurs.com, where she obsesses over hockey, blogging, graphic design, DIY projects, Africa, feminism, books, travel, coffee, food, and possibly dinosaurs.