By: Maddie Hansen, IATG ContributorSeptember 16, 2016
...but I’m going to be okay.
Confused. Sad. Astonished. Dumfounded. Happy?
What am I supposed to feel when my parents are getting divorced?
I feel as though God has made a mistake. Maybe he accidently chose the wrong family to tear apart. But that’s not it. This wasn’t God’s fault. It wasn’t anybody's fault. All of this is based off of one decision. One life alteration. One change. It was just two people deciding that life together was no longer possible. And my life just happened to change in the process.
Robin Sharma once said, “Change is the hardest in the beginning, messiest in the middle, and best and the end.” True to life and divorce, all that I hope for is for a good outcome.
When the world happens to drop a big atomic bomb saying, “Hey, guess what!? Your life isn’t going to be the same anymore!” I know that the best thing to do is just go with the flow. But I’m pretty sure that if it weren’t for the IATG community, I wouldn’t have been able to come to this conclusion, and I know that the constant negativity would have taken over my mind.
I would have laid in bed at night, staring at the ceiling, thinking about what my life would be like if my parents weren’t divorcing. I would have feared that relationships with my parents beyond this point would just be awkward. I would have feared that people would judge my family for being separated.
Why was this my thought process? Well, before my parents told me their plans for the future, I was someone who would judge people based on their family life. If someone would tell me their parents were divorced, my mind would have screamed, “DRAMA!!” Now that I’m going through this, I realize that people’s circumstances do not define their character.
With the help of I Am That Girl and it’s wonderful gang of girls, I’ve realized that not everything is perfect.
Life is going to be one hell of a roller coaster ride, but all you have to do is trust it.
I fear a lot of things, but as a great lady (aka Rachel Lincoln) once said, “you can’t let fear be your driver. You have to acknowledge that it’s there, say hi, and let it be your backseat driver, but never, ever, ever let it take control of the wheel.” I absolutely hate these changes, but they’re necessary to move into a bright and more beautiful tomorrow.
Change can be scary, especially when we don’t have any control, but let’s take Maddie’s lead and accept change as a necessary part of life! Try to simply go with the flow of life this week, and see what happens! Life may seem a little brighter if we let go of things we can’t control.
Maddie is a level 8 gymnast with the desire to show the world of girls that they can make a difference. Gymnastics has brought her into a lifestyle full of challenges and struggles. In the future she wants to make it on a collegiate gymnastics team and become an anesthesiologist. This fall, she will be a freshman at Fort Atkinson High School.