By: Sana Noor, Guest Blogger
“It’s messing people up, this social pressure to “find your passion” and “know what it is you want to do.” It’s perfectly fine to just live your moments fully, and marvel as many small and large passions, many small and large purposes enter and leave your life. For many people there is no realization, no bliss to follow, no discovery of your life’s purpose. This isn’t sad; it’s just the way things are. Stop trying to find the forest and just enjoy the trees.” - Sally Coulter
We were seated at a table for four, you with your coffee and me with my berry bliss when the table next to ours started filling up. One by one, sophisticated, yet at the same time, borderline eccentric people carefully pulled back the chairs without making a sound and seated themselves. I noticed the bounce in their step and the smile in their eyes. I noticed their clothes unlike anything that would grace a runway but I swear it belonged up there. And I noticed the air around them, determined and oozing importance.
Somehow, I just knew that they possessed something that I hoped for myself in the future.
Getting there however is a feat of its own.
What Sally Coulter said has stayed with me ever since I accidently stumbled upon it. My passions have changed through the years, which is something that you’ll come to learn about me. And I’ve been often asked one too many times to be exact, what I hoped to achieve from them. It’s almost like even the smallest act needs a justification.
If I’m reading a book I’ll need to justify why I’m “wasting time” when I could be doing something productive.
If I Google something just to get its background I’m told to get “a life.”
If I want to soak up the sun, lie still upon the grass, and just breathe in the quiet I’m told to stop “being boring.”
We live in a society where we should have mapped our life from the age that we started thinking for ourselves and if we haven’t understood the topography, others have opinions of what you should have achieved by now.
Society makes us fear the future. And while we remain consumed in that fear we forget the warmth of the sun on a winter morning, the smell of rain on dry grass, the shy stars above the city skyline, and the song that the Earth sings just to watch you dance.
We’ve started fearing the simplest of things, especially our own happiness. We see the world through suspicious eyes that constantly look over our shoulders and refuse to huddle against another in the cold. Maybe somewhere on the highway of “always coming out on top” we missed the intersection that promised those moments of eternal joys and bittersweet memories that filled the heart with content.
And so we run this race alone, maneuvering our way among the throng of people, eyes dead set on the finish line, no time for smiles sent in greeting. The concept of “You Only Live Once” has been lost in its abbreviation YOLO. It’s not about making reckless decisions just because we’re born into the world with an unknown expiry date. It’s about those small moments that cling to our skin like pollen to our coats. So I say have passions, more than one, far too many even. And just go this life one day at a time.
It can be tricky business, this slowing down to drink in the moments and recognize them as just as important as the milestones, but you can do it! Grab a lovely journal or notebook and at the end of each day write: "3 Amazing Things That Happened Today." See what happens when you stop and let yourself elevate the everyday!
Sana Noor is a Grammar fanatic, simply loves the colour blue, anything with a history and Florence and the Machine. Her heart bleeds poetry and believes in the art of the handwritten letter.
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