By: Brittney Schering, Regular Contributor
Most feminists we read and learn about are older, professionally established women who have become advocates about certain elements of feminism long, long ago. One example is Eleanor Roosevelt with her famous quote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." The beautiful thing about today is that young women—young and bold—are joining the women’s rights movement, too. One young and married mother of a baby shares her powerful words and thoughts.
Mrs. Kailey Warner may be small and appear younger than her actual age, but what the common passerby does not know is that she is a wife and mother of her darling daughter, Anabelle. With this beautiful gift of life came a new passion for advocacy, feminism, and women’s rights.
Q: As a young woman, have you always been a feminist? Do you remember the first experience that made you lean this way and why it was so pertinent?
A: No, I have not always been a feminist. I became one when I became tired of people telling women what to do with their bodies and how to look.
Q: When you became pregnant, how was your experience? Being a small girl, despite married, how did society react to your presence in public? Did you feel judged or viewed differently by any particular groups of people, or do you feel that the public was generally warmhearted during that time?
A: Pregnancy for me was a love/hate sort of thing. I loved being pregnant, but I hated what came along with it. People made so many rude assumptions about me. They assumed that the father wasn’t in the picture, that my pregnancy was an accident. The ones who I told I was married assumed we got married because of the pregnancy. I even had people assume I was a teenage mom in high school. Haha. I wish people would’ve been less judgmental.
Q: Upon having your daughter, did you know right away that you wanted to breast-feed? Along with that, were you prepared for the public reactions you'd soon receive?
A: The second I found out I was pregnant I knew I wanted to breastfeed. I knew I wanted to give my daughter the best possible nutrition. It’s cheap, it’s always available, and breast is best. I had no idea how hard it would be. I thought it would be just an easy natural thing. I didn't even think I would get reactions in public. I thought people would see it as just a normal thing, because it is natural.
Q: When did you become an advocate for breast-feeding? How about breast-feeding in public?
A: I became an advocate for breastfeeding and nursing in public the moment I started. I believe that every woman should attempt it. I have nothing against formula but I think it should be used if medically necessary. I shouldn’t have to be an advocate for nursing in public. It is sad that people think it’s a gross thing. If your baby is hungry, you feed it. People just need to get past it. Women have breasts to feed their babies; if you don't want to see it, don't look.
Q: Have you seen the telephone-booth-like lactation stations popping up in public places such as airports? What do you think of these?
A: I think the lactation stations are wonderful! It’s great for women who prefer privacy. They can go feed their babies without having to go find a quiet bench or put a cover on.
Q: Last question! If asked to give advice for other young moms and moms-to-be, what would it be?
A: My advice to young moms is just this: to believe in yourselves. You know what is best for your child and you. Don't let people push you around.
Kailey is a prime example of an extraordinarily independent, strong-willed woman who exudes nothing but confidence. She often receives misjudgment and scrutiny for her honorably maternal ways, particularly that of breastfeeding, yet she continues to hold her head up high.
With that, she is an impeccable role model for young girls and mothers, both expecting and with new children. As Kailey encouraged, never allow society to sway your belief system nor shun you into a corner for being bold or different. Live your life the way you know is right for you.
Brittney Schering is a writer and full-time nanny in LA. She contributes to multiple publications and maintains two blogs; one personal, the other on life as a nanny. Brittney is passionate about compassion, positivity, creativity, and children's best interests. She holds a Bachelor's degree in professional writing.
Featured image courtesy Kailey Warner