By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor
“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn't you - all of the expectations, all of the beliefs - and becoming who you are.” --Rachel Naomi Remen
Moving on is probably one of the hardest things for any of us to do. Whether it is from a broken relationship, a lost loved one, or about moving on to a better, changed version of our selves. We think that it’s easier and safer to stay where we are. Even if where we are is a place of pain and heartache, we become attached to it. We fear that the promise of freedom resulting from a fresh start and brighter future will never live up to the real thing. But if we are never brave enough to let go of the weight that we’re carrying around and challenge the waves, eventually we’ll find ourselves sinking in the swell.
For me, I’m trying to move on from the constant struggle of trying to be the person that other people expect me to be. It’s exhausting, comparing myself to the successes of others in a world where the glorification of ‘busy’ is overwhelming. I’m not the girl who likes to constantly have something going on. I don’t always like having people around. I love doing my own thing and being by myself. I feel a sense of adventure when I’m finding my way and when I don’t always have an answer. When people ask me, “so what do you plan on doing now?” and my answer falls short of an elaborate plan for success, the look on their faces changes from excitement to one of pity and disinterest. Sometimes I feel like when I don’t have an answer or a plan for the future, I’m not only standing still, but I’m falling behind.
It’s hard to find who you are in this world when there are a hundred people telling you who you should be, what you should believe, and how you should look. You’re not going to know who you are or what you really want to be until you let go of the expectations of the people around you.
Release the relationships of your past that are no longer encouraging you. You don’t need increased stress from people that aren’t supporting you and helping you move forward. As we grow up it’s important that we don’t continue to thrive on the same drama we had in school. It used to define us. It became who we were and what group of friends we fit in to, but not anymore. At the end of the day we are all on an equal playing field, hoping the score will change in our favor by morning. However, each day the sun rises just the same no matter where or who we are unless we make the conscious decision that today will be different.
Today is the day that I will be who I am, hold my own beliefs, and be in love with my own beauty. I have to remember that the past does not define what I will do, or the possibilities of what I can do. I am making a difference and finding my purpose. Today, I will let go and move on, headstrong and hopeful.
She moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.
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