Lessons, Loss

By: Kate Krassowski, Regular Contributor

I am fiercely affected by all the tragedy and loss that I see every day on television and online. My life may not be directly impacted by a situation, but those are my fellow humans out there being hurt and losing their love ones, and I feel for them. Any of us can have our world turned upside down at any moment. I have never really lost anyone unexpectedly, which is a blessing, but I also have a heart for those who have. I have learned from the people who have lost family or friends that they care about, especially those who were lost too soon. From this, I am reminded of when I was in college, and a girl in my class passed away suddenly. She and I were never very close but I still knew her and had spent time with her. That same year, three women of our Greek community were killed in a wrong way highway crash on their way to the airport for spring break. In high school, my teacher’s son died from cancer. I saw the darkness that their family went through and felt such compassion for them.  

In all of these horrible events, even though I wasn’t extremely close to any of them, I took these losses to heart. I knew that those families were in devastating pain and not only that, those young people, would never get the chances that I have. I feel a responsibility to them to continue living a full life. I am grateful that I have the chance to follow my dreams and it’s a blessing to be able to spend time with my friends and family. Nothing that I worry about or stress over compares to the tragedy of a young person not being able to live another day.


These situations can put life in perspective for us. We don’t have to be in the middle of a heartbreaking event to learn from it. When someone leaves you alone, or when you fall short of who you want to be, never lose sight of what you strive for. Whether it's a career, or to fall in love, or to simply move on from the pain of losing a big part of your heart, know that the possibility of something better is never lost. Know that the chance to grow, while you’re here, is never gone. I have survived a lot of tears and pain but have been blessed with love and hope. These days my mind wanders to the people who never had the chance to truly live, those that weren’t able to fully experience life. I would give anything for those lost souls to experience a failure, or to be given the opportunity to fight for the one they love. I think of the ones that never got a second chance, but I especially feel for the ones who never got the first.

My last hope is that you leave a piece of yourself behind, wherever you go. Who you are will change the lives of people around you. Never let the discouraging words of someone else change the inspiring ones that you have to say. Speak up and act for those who no longer can, for those who wanted to change the world but fell short because time ran out for them. We’re still here. And as long as that’s true, nothing is out of reach.

About Kate

Kate_Byline-1.jpgShe moved to Los Angeles from Cleveland, OH after graduating with a B.A in Film Production from BGSU. She is passionate about speaking out against how women are viewed in the media and being part of changing it.






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