By: Lorene Belotti, Guest Blogger
I recently asked myself this question after realizing I tend to get quite close to someone who, at first, I would never imagine being a friend. I met this girl at work and honestly, at first sight, I thought we wouldn’t be more than colleagues; we had very different characters and I didn’t feel a special affinity with her.
I guess seeing her every day and sharing information about our respective lives forced us to dig a little bit more. I was astonished when we began to talk about movies and entertainment we love and when she admitted her favorite TV show was the same as mine!
I tried to figure it out: how could this girl be touched by the same things as me while having a totally different education, a different life path, and a different approach to social relationships? More generally, it made me ask: what links human beings? The answer is not so easy and can change according to our religious or philosophical beliefs but basically, every human being has the same basic needs. According to Abraham Maslow and his famous needs pyramid, we all have five big necessities: physiological needs, security needs, love and membership needs, esteem needs (from us and from the others), and finally, self-accomplishment.
As you can see, the psychological side is super important for a person’s well-being, and I think emotions are the bonding key, they connect us to one another. Empathy allows us to be compassionate when people are in pain or in danger. That’s why people are so united when big tragedies happen (for example: the events of 11 September 2001). We call it fraternity.
I also believe no matter our backgrounds, we all share some universal values such as love and compassion. We also share negative emotions such as anger, fear, and pain. That’s what my colleague and I probably share in liking the same TV show: a common basic value. Also, she’s been through a very hard time in her personal life, and I’ve realized we’re also equal as people facing losses or big life challenges.
At a time where people are always connected through technology, sometimes speaking more to people living on the opposite side of the world than they will to their next door neighbors, I work every day to find the positive side of people around me even when I think we don’t especially belong together; I do my best to remain benevolent keeping in mind we certainly are less different than we all think.
Lorene is a French observer and learner of life. She’s been working as a salesperson and a marketing assistant for four years to learn the ropes of the business world. She used to be a sports journalist while doing her Master’s degree and she loves writing and telling stories about great people too much not to go back to her first love soon. She lives in the French Alps, and loves to try to solve the world’s problems while having a great meal with her loved ones. She is passionate about foreign languages, self-development books, American TV shows, and people. Oh, and she’s a total nerd of Academic studies (when she’ll win the lottery, she’ll go to Harvard).
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