Learning to Love Your Insecurities

By Allison Annala, Regular ContributorSeptember 28, 2015

I’ve been a little insecure lately. Similarly, I’ve been a little insecure with my insecurities.

I know what you’re thinking, “Al, that makes no sense.”

Allow me to explain.

As an avid member of the I AM THAT GIRL community, I try my hardest to be THAT GIRL on a daily basis. I’ve been working hard to see past all the negatives and really invest my energy in the positives. I’ve been striving to let the people in my life know how much I care about them, and I have been spending a lot of time reflecting on the amazing people, opportunities, and blessings that I have in my life.

One of the other things I’ve really been working on is understanding how I feel, embracing my vulnerabilities, and checking in with my insecurities.

Insecurities, huh? But I AM THAT GIRL, and I want to emulate what it means to BE THAT GIRL. Somehow, that train of thought has shifted a bit into just being happy all the time, which I know is both impractical and improbable. The incredible I AM THAT GIRL curriculum teaches us to embrace our vulnerabilities and recognize our insecurities. We learn very quickly in our IATG journey that our flaws are what make us beautyFULL and embracing them is one of the only ways to truly embrace and love ourselves. I know all of this, and I even share this message with the kids I coach, the friends I interact with, and basically every other woman in my life. Despite my extensive knowledge on the IATG phenomenon, I still find myself trying to invalidate my insecurities from time to time.


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I frequently find myself trying to stop a feeling. If something happens to make me feel insecure, I immediately try to talk myself out of that insecurity. “No… stop worrying so much, you’re overanalyzing this, stop being so insecure.” The list of one liners could go on and on.

I wonder sometimes if the “tough girl” persona I’ve been conditioning my brain to emulate is the right way to handle these situations. Maybe those feelings of insecurity are completely justified, and by pushing them away, I’m simply hiding from my true emotions. Maybe I am overanalyzing the way that I feel. Maybe, just maybe, I could talk myself in circles trying to figure this all out and never come to a concrete decision.

I think the truth of the matter is that our insecurities, our flaws, and our vulnerabilities are what give us character.

They are the things that help us grow and develop into the people we want to be. Recognizing them, embracing them, and sometimes just sitting with the idea of them can be challenging for our egos. I do think that understanding where our weaknesses lie and being comfortable knowing where we have room to grow is a very valuable tool to have.

So, from now on, I shall try to recognize when the “tough girl” should emerge, and when to take a deeper look inside to see if a growing opportunity exists. Let’s face it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having insecurities. Denying that those insecurities exist, that’s where we’re cheating ourselves out of valuable growth opportunities! Let’s face these opportunities with grace… exactly the way THAT GIRL would do it!

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About Allison

A gymnast since age 4, Allison uses the life lessons learned through the sport to help young women discover their greatness! She is a huge advocate for girls and women, particularly when it comes to body image and self-worth! Along with coaching, Allison now teaches at her Alma Matter, the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater. She loves sharing her passion for gymnastics with women of all ages and her passion for life and love on her blog www.allison-lifeisbeautiful.blogspot.com. She is so thrilled to be an advocate for IATG and can’t wait to help inspire women all over the world!  


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  • commented 2015-10-06 12:13:53 -0700
    😳 I could’ve written this piece! This explains exactly how I feel/am! Tears came to my eyes as I read this. My insecurities? Body image as I’m a personal trainer and group exercise instructor and sometimes feel like a hypocrite when inspiring others. Now I’m looking for “growing opportunities” 😀
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