By Ruby Solomon, Guest BloggerOctober 12, 2015
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Vulnerability is a regular emotion for many people, but it’s one that many fear. It’s hard to allow yourself to feel exposed in what can sometimes be a judgmental world. Emotionally, being vulnerable could mean admitting that you’re in love with someone who is your best friend or sharing information about yourself as a way to get to know somebody better. These are just a couple of examples. There are many ways to be open with yourself and others around you.
To tell the truth, it isn't easy for me to be vulnerable. But sometimes it helps to share a part of you with others to make them feel like they are in a safe environment. In fact, when I meet someone new, I always ask pretty common and easy questions just to get the ball rolling. I find that it makes our first interaction a little less uncomfortable and awkward.
It helps to share a part of you with others to make them feel like they are in a safe environment.
Breaking somebody out of their shell happens to be one of my favorite things. Seeing a person grow out of their shy, closed-off behavior to being louder and more relaxed is honestly a really eye opening and beautiful experience.
Now, there has not been a time where I have fallen in love with my best guy friend before, but I have definitely been through some rocky emotional times. As a teenage girl who just naturally feels like she doesn’t always fit in, it gets hard to handle those hormones and feelings on my own.
My way of being vulnerable was telling a therapist about my personal, innermost thoughts that I previously assumed I would take to the grave. We would talk through my friendship issues, about how to build a healthier self-esteem, and of course, endlessly discuss my middle school crushes. I could share my views on the world without being judged and I could hysterically cry without having to give a reason. Just having someone listen to me was enough. It was a fabulous feeling of vulnerability.
I could share my views on the world without being judged and I could hysterically cry without having to give a reason.
In a sense, what I am trying to say is that being vulnerable is an immensely significant feeling. Without it, we would have strained relationships, unsafe environments, and yes, we would most definitely be an extremely boring bunch of people. But overall, sharing your feelings with someone you trust and connect to will take away the feeling of loneliness. It will take away stress, and it will take away sadness, but it will give you pure, and much needed, bliss.
Who are you most comfortable being vulnerable with? Tell us below!
Ruby is 13 years old and goes to The Willows Community School. She loves creative writing and all sorts of animals, like penguins!
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