By: Lauren Freier, Guest Blogger
Sometimes life happens to us, and other times we happen to life. No matter how much ownership we might take over ourselves and our actions, certain things are still entirely beyond our control. When a curveball inevitably comes our way, we can either duck and hide or whip out our glove, but we cannot stay put and ignore its existence. Doing so will undoubtedly leave a lasting (and painful) mark.
Because we are not always at the top of our game, we all carry bruises in some shape or form. However it is how we treat them that determine the course of their healing.
When a child falls off his bike, his parent tends to his cuts and scratches to prevent them from scarring, yet that same approach often does not apply when pain permeates beyond the physical. Would you call that child weak, incapable, or broken because he couldn't heal properly without ointment, a bandage, and some TLC? Would you question why he didn't just suck it up and will the cuts away on his own?
I imagine most would not.
Why then, are there such different standards when it comes to treating mental and emotional wounds? People do not seek therapy because they are weak, incapable, or broken; on the contrary, they exercise immense amounts of strength by addressing and confronting their pain. In doing so, they send themselves the message that they matter, they are worthy, and they deserve the chance to heal.
The presence of failure and defeat is not obligatory for growth, because a commitment to self-improvement requires no pre-requisites. It rather acknowledges that sometimes life happens to us, and we want to be warmed up, well-practiced, and strong enough take action.
Bumps, bruises, and scrapes are all a part of healthy growth and life experiences.
- How do you work through hurt--emotional, mental?
- Think of a time when you "fell down, but got back up," what did you learn?
- What does the word "resilience" mean to you? When have you felt most resilient?
Lauren is a passionate writer, Beatles fanatic, celebrity gossip junkie, therapist, and mental health advocate. Her personal and professional experiences in both LA and Chicago have inspired her dedication to emotional wellness, resiliency, and self-acceptance. She holds an MA in Clinical Psychology and is a therapist at InnerVoice Psychotherapy and Consultation, a Chicago-based private practice, as well as a social-emotional health educator at a non-profit organization.
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